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i recently got back my ex. BIt of history, we had been dating for about 2 and a half years and then broke up because things werent going good. i didnt want to but she really did so had no other choice. I thought we were on a break and not broken up. Meanwhile she started seeing this guy who was a really close friend of mine and i introduced them to each other. She was sleeping at his and they stayed the nights in hotels and everything in 2 weeks after we broke up. I begged her to get back and i was really hurt but i still wanted her so after a month i was okay, still hurt but started doing a bit better and one day she returned and told me she misses me and all and then we got back together and then for one month we had an amazing time but then she had to go overseas with her family for a month. I once kissed this one girl while we were on a break about a year ago, she didnt want that break but i did and then the girl i kissed was a really good friend of mine and i was really close to her and when we kissed i felt terrible and decided not too talk to her again. So like recently when my gf went overseas, i couldnt deal with the guilt i had about that one kiss so i called her and told her. MInd that before that she thought something was up and we talked and i told her nothing happened and i thought we were past that. But she always tried to talk to that girl to get information off her like she didnt trust me at all. but once i told her, she was really upset and was like she is done and we havent spoken for 2 days. i know she is still trying to talk to that girl because she messaged me telling that my gf started asking her again and i told her to tell the truth since i have already manned up and told her everything. but now she has broken up with me and doesnt wanna talk to me. she returns from overseas in a month. I have always really covered her up and even after what she did with my close friend, i still took her back because i really love her. we started dating in higshchool and were in uni together. My family never liked her and was always against her but i always stood up for her and for past 2 years, my relationship with my sister has been terrible because she didnt like my gf but i never cared and still supported her through everything and always took her back. Now im really fed up and told her i dont care anymore. did i do the right thing?

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she started seeing this guy who was a really close friend of mine and i introduced them to each other. She was sleeping at his and they stayed the nights in hotels and everything in 2 weeks after we broke up.

Do you really believe they started "dating" after you broke up? And were staying in hotels within 2 weeks of starting dating?

 

No, much more likely is that she was cheating on you with your friend for a long time before she broke up with you.

 

You should never talk to her, or your "really close friend", again.

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idk man like previously me and my gf have never had any issues like that, and when i spoke to her, she said that she didnt like him or anything it was just that he was nice to her and made her feel happy at that time. Keep in mind im a 19 year old uni student and drive a civic and that guys literally own a ferrari. i was going to beat him to his death one day but controlled myself and havent seen him since then.

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idk man like previously me and my gf have never had any issues like that, and when i spoke to her, she said that she didnt like him or anything it was just that he was nice to her and made her feel happy at that time. Keep in mind im a 19 year old uni student and drive a civic and that guys literally own a ferrari. i was going to beat him to his death one day but controlled myself and havent seen him since then.

 

 

Thats her way of dealing with things, go to the man with the most material possessions.

 

Leaving you for another man is one thing, leaving you for your friend is very low.

 

Why would you plead for such a person to come into your life? Does that even make sense? For F's sake, drop kick this one out of your life...

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yeah man i know that was really low and it did hurt me so much that for the whole month i couldn't eat or sleep and even stopped working and just started smoking hardcore and driving around(I really love driving) to distract myself.

i really want to but idk man i really love her and tried to kick her out but i couldn't. It was my first relationship and im quite old fashioned and yeah

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You really love her after she cheated on you with your best friend?

 

Seriously??

 

What do you think she would be doing if you had done that to her? Cheated on her with her best friend, dumped her and started seeing her best friend? Do you think she would be on a forum saying "oh but I love him"? No, you would be kicked out so fast she'd have to FedEx your shadow back to you.

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i like your motivational speech man thanks

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What if you both take a break of six months to a year? It is unclear how old you and this young lady are. It is also unclear as to how intimate you have been with each other. At any rate you both seem a bit confused. In the interim you should both listen to the counsel of older family members. After the cooling off period you can both decide if you want to restart your relationship.

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hey man i like that idea and it really makes sense but the problem is that it would be really hard to do because i really cant go much longer without seeing her and even if i tried to get away i wont be able to cause we both go to the same uni and run into eachother all the time.

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i like your motivational speech man thanks

 

-So your parents hate her for reasons that have to be obvious.

-You destroyed the relationship you had with your sister.

-She had sex with your friend.. (guess she is the victim now)

-You BEGGED for her back.

-You proceed to tell your gf "on break" a critical point that you kissed another girl

 

and the WORST PART OF ALL is you claimed in all this that you manned up.

 

Really? REALLY? No I mean really?:lmao:

 

This relationship was doomed the minute you walked into it. You are highly immature and my advise to you is man up and tell your family and your sister you F-ED up. Maybe and just maybe you may feel a backbone grow in the body of yours.

 

No women will have respect for you. Maybe one who is highly insecure... If you proceed with this disrespect for your self and lack of morals and values. How do you honestly think a women will feel around a person who is simple a boy? Maybe your a boy who likes to chase immature girls?

 

You want to be a man. Start by telling your family they were right and you were wrong and was simply blinded by love. How about starting with honesty with your self.

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