toungeofcolicab Posted November 22, 2016 Posted November 22, 2016 Hey all, It's been a while since i posted here and i remember how much help i received beforehand and i how appreciative i was. Anyway, ill sum it up as quickly as i can. My ex gf and I broke up in 2014. It was a very difficult time for me, as basically simultaneously, my father passed away. It was very different to any relationship i had had before/or since, just due to how intense i guess the feelings were, but i moved on eventually. I cut off all communication pretty promptly, and she found another boyfriend, and all was fine. I hadn't heard, seen, or even seen a photo of her since then. I recently started dating an absolutely fantastic girl. She's educated, smart, caring, alot of very good qualities that all a guy can ask for. My ex has gotten in contact with her numerous times (through another girl who is friends with the girl im dating as well) to tell her about me and how i am as a person (sharing deep thoughts i had expressed with her, to this new girl). This current girl and my ex girlfriend have a mutual friend they are both close with. With the friend, my ex gf went into the current girls work, called her into the lobby as if it was an emergency situation where she ran down, to be told im seeing another girl on top of her. (which i wasn't). This also all happened while i was away skiing for a long weekend with my mates. After all this and i explained how this wasn't true at all, the current girl believed me and we moved on. I then found out, that my ex continuously sees any females i may have added on social media and says im dating them, has claimed this with a couple and tried to 'interrupt' any possible female i may be dating. Obviously the current girl is skeptical and has every right to be. Me and her have openly discussed it, with her saying it just seems like she isn't over you and me venting frustrations of just wanting to leave it in the past and letting me move on. I think i would be lying to myself if i was to say i didn't have any lingering feelings either, but i just don't understand why it has come to this. Earlier in the year, someone was calling my house phone, literally morning and night when i would go to sleep and leave for work (on the dot when i would leave) and just breathe into the phone, with noone having my house phone number. Also, someone made fake account on snapchat (using a name of a friend who i have) with never a reply. Earlier in the year i also got a threatening phone call on my cell, saying to stop calling my ex gf, when i haven't been in any contact nor do i have her number. It's a confusing time for me, as this girl is great that im seeing and we have some form of connection, but i dont understand why this has come back into my life (unexpectedly). I've been re-assured that my ex girlfriend is thinking of getting engaged to her current bf with in the year or so (or theyve discussed it) which i have no issue with. I think a lot of this boils down to how difficult it was trying to juggle possibly rekindling that relationship at the same time my father was ill, and then boom both at once. The logical thing is to obviously avoid as a reaction is trying to be had from me, and just maintain the current girl, but im trying to wrap my head around the train of thought my ex girlfriend would be having? Why now? Any advice would be an amazing help as my emotions could be all over the place very easily ( and i would even admit that) Cheers,
AT15 Posted November 22, 2016 Posted November 22, 2016 Once you've finally found someone to replace her, she can't handle it. She is egotistical and sad. Keep moving, you're going in the right direction.
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