Where Do I Start Getting Back On Track?

[JasonBourne]

Do you get who she is now?

 

Maybe that'll help

 

I do, yes.

[JasonBourne]

This break up is really making me feel all kinds of emotions.

 

She called me from No Caller ID yesterday, to arrange meeting to give me this laptop, and gettting it next week.

 

A friend today who had her old number saved in her phone messaged me to show me that my ex now has an Instagram account. I was not strong enough to not look, so I looked. The issue im having now is that i am finding myself feeling all sorts of feelings. She looked amazing in her pictures - these werent even posed selfies, they were just random pictures. And now i cant stop thinking about her. And im hurting all over again because she doesnt want to be with me, anymore. Im dreading seeing her, because i know i will feel emotional. I feel like I'm trapped in these emotions.

 

Why does it always seem to happen that an ex looks fantastic after a break up? It's causing me real emotional pain, tbh.

[Marc878]

This break up is really making me feel all kinds of emotions.

 

She called me from No Caller ID yesterday, to arrange meeting to give me this laptop, and gettting it next week.

 

A friend today who had her old number saved in her phone messaged me to show me that my ex now has an Instagram account. I was not strong enough to not look, so I looked. The issue im having now is that i am finding myself feeling all sorts of feelings. She looked amazing in her pictures - these werent even posed selfies, they were just random pictures. And now i cant stop thinking about her. And im hurting all over again because she doesnt want to be with me, anymore. Im dreading seeing her, because i know i will feel emotional. I feel like I'm trapped in these emotions.

 

Why does it always seem to happen that an ex looks fantastic after a break up? It's causing me real emotional pain, tbh.

 

You really need to believe who she's shown you she is. Get your laptop say thanks and leave.

 

Don't hang around looking needy like a pup.

[JasonBourne]

You really need to believe who she's shown you she is. Get your laptop say thanks and leave.

 

Don't hang around looking needy like a pup.

 

Marc, what did you mean in your previous comment?

 

You're correct, I know this is all purely psychological; I just genuinely want this to be all over.

[Satu]

Marc, what did you mean in your previous comment?

 

You're correct, I know this is all purely psychological; *I just genuinely want this to be all over.

 

This would be a good place to start:

 

*No direct contact.

*No sending or receiving of messages.

*Block any means she might use to contact you.

*No replies to anything that gets through your blocks.

*No indirect contact through third parties.

*De-friend or delete her from all social media.

*No monitoring of her on social media.

*No 'little birds' feeding you news.

*Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what she is doing or saying.

 

 

Take care.

[JasonBourne]

This would be a good place to start:

 

*No direct contact.

*No sending or receiving of messages.

*Block any means she might use to contact you.

*No replies to anything that gets through your blocks.

*No indirect contact through third parties.

*De-friend or delete her from all social media.

*No monitoring of her on social media.

*No 'little birds' feeding you news.

*Tell people that you don't want to know anything about what she is doing or saying.

 

 

Take care.

 

I feel exhausted with love and its accompanying emotions. I feel as if I cannot get into another relationship ever again; I can't trust the words of women. I can't trust that I won't be hurt or abandoned. This has totally worn me down.

[Ilovepizzalady]

I have the thought that I won't love someone else, but I know that is false. I will trust again because if I can make it through this pain and love someone else, I know that I can survive anything. My mother went through the death of her husband of 30 years to cancer, and later she found love again. It is possible. You have to trust. I feel we are only on this Earth once, we only have one chance to do it. You will get through this too.

[JasonBourne]

I have the thought that I won't love someone else, but I know that is false. I will trust again because if I can make it through this pain and love someone else, I know that I can survive anything. My mother went through the death of her husband of 30 years to cancer, and later she found love again. It is possible. You have to trust. I feel we are only on this Earth once, we only have one chance to do it. You will get through this too.

 

Your mother sounds like a formidable woman. To be able to do that takes a huge amount of strength.

 

You and I have both been through the loss of a parent, and should really try to draw on the strength of that... but it isn't always that easy. It's the end of Christmas and I'm lying in a bedroom crying while my 12 year old cousin is asleep - thats so pathetic.

 

And I have tried my hardest to arrange for someone else to collect this damn item from her, but no one is available. This only means that my pain isn't over and no matter how well I'll start to feel during the week, it will all be unwound by the meeting.

[JasonBourne]

I've decided to leave the laptop. It isnt worth it to break myself emotionally getting it back.

[Formerfiveo]

Good for you.

 

Protect yourself because if you don't, no one else will.

 

Just keep crawling forward. You will get through this and will be stronger in the end.

 

Sending hugs.

[Ilovepizzalady]

I'm having a very big setback. I went over to WhatsApp and see that his profile pic is him and her sticking their tongues out with Christmas hats on. I'm so mad!

 

I sent him a nice Christmas message and he didn't respond (he had responded most of the other messages I sent since August even if they were brief).

 

He has my space heater and mentioned he has a jacket of mine. I want to call him on Tuesday at work and say look I've been really nice regarding this whole situation but really uncomfortable with losing my belongings over this and the two of you using them. When can I pick them up or I can send a friend over to get them? he's pushing my boundaries.

[JasonBourne]

Good for you.

 

Protect yourself because if you don't, no one else will.

 

Just keep crawling forward. You will get through this and will be stronger in the end.

 

Sending hugs.

 

I will keep trying to find someone to pick it up for me, if I don't find anyone then I will simply cut my losses. I would rather lose a laptop than my sanity.

 

Thank you so much for the kind words. They mean more than you'll ever know.

[JasonBourne]

I'm having a very big setback. I went over to WhatsApp and see that his profile pic is him and her sticking their tongues out with Christmas hats on. I'm so mad!

 

I sent him a nice Christmas message and he didn't respond (he had responded most of the other messages I sent since August even if they were brief).

 

He has my space heater and mentioned he has a jacket of mine. I want to call him on Tuesday at work and say look I've been really nice regarding this whole situation but really uncomfortable with losing my belongings over this and the two of you using them. When can I pick them up or I can send a friend over to get them? he's pushing my boundaries.

 

I'm not in a position to give any sort of advice but I think you should delete his number. That way you won't see any of that horrible stuff.

 

Can the space heater be replaced? Is there anyone who can speak to him on your behalf to get it back? You shouldn't have to deal or speak with him.

[Ilovepizzalady]

It's more like I don't want it warming the two of them up in his apartment.