you_can_not_see_me Posted November 22, 2016 Posted November 22, 2016 So I have had Tinder on my phone for a while but almost never got matches with attractive women I would want to go out with. This week I put up a couple of new photos and now I am actually matching with a few attractive girls for some reason. One of the girls I matched with seemed to share some interests so we messaged one another until late that night. After a heated discussion, at about 2am I messaged her asking if she wanted to exchange numbers and put up my own number. I didn't receive any message back so I went to sleep. But the next day I didn't get any thing back either. I know online dating and Tinder are full of flaky people with short attention spans, but should I message the girl again? or should I just assume she lost her interest? I know we just exchanged some messages, but I d be kinda disappointed if this was it since the girl seemed like a great match.
freckles14 Posted November 22, 2016 Posted November 22, 2016 I think you should message her once more if she doesn't respond, but after that don't. Its one thing for her to ignore your message once, but its another to keep ignoring them. It seems like she was interested if you kept talking to her until 2 in the morning. So she should respond back. If she doesn't I think she she might not be as interested as she seemed. But hopefully that isnt the case for you. Good luck!
LD1990 Posted November 22, 2016 Posted November 22, 2016 It's very unlikely she'll respond either way, but you've also got nothing to lose at this point by messaging her again. Your call, but this is why it's best to never get too attached to any one girl until much further along. Try to get the number early. It's a good way to find out how serious a girl is before wasting too much time on a conversation, and it shows initiative. And don't bother giving your number, just ask for theirs.
Author you_can_not_see_me Posted November 22, 2016 Author Posted November 22, 2016 It's very unlikely she'll respond either way, but you've also got nothing to lose at this point by messaging her again. Your call, but this is why it's best to never get too attached to any one girl until much further along. Try to get the number early. It's a good way to find out how serious a girl is before wasting too much time on a conversation, and it shows initiative. And don't bother giving your number, just ask for theirs. I agree its pretty ridiculous for me to have anything for the girl at this point. But when you run into a girl whose both attractive and seems like a good match, and its such a rare thing for it to happen, it just kinda happens. People say you shouldn't be desperate, but that only works for people who don't deal with scarcity.
MarkIVSteel Posted November 22, 2016 Posted November 22, 2016 Next time ask for her number. Don't offer yours. 2
smackie9 Posted November 22, 2016 Posted November 22, 2016 you said heated discussion.......so you were having a disagreement? 1
TheTraveler Posted November 22, 2016 Posted November 22, 2016 you said heated discussion.......so you were having a disagreement? Yes I would like to know what the heated discussion was about.
Author you_can_not_see_me Posted November 22, 2016 Author Posted November 22, 2016 you said heated discussion.......so you were having a disagreement? Ok, maybe not so much a heated discussion as in getting angered at one another, but rather excited about what we were talking about. We did disagree on some stuff, but more in joking way.
Erik30 Posted November 22, 2016 Posted November 22, 2016 No, I would just wait till she texts you. If you don't hear from her, she probably was bored and just liked the attention. A lot of people on Tinder are like that unfortunately. But I do have to say that some girls don't like to give their number after just one conversation, since it has a reputation as an app mainly used to hook up. 1
mushroomlol Posted November 22, 2016 Posted November 22, 2016 Next time ask for her number. Don't offer yours. Yea I was gonna say if I guy just left me his phone number without asking mine I would totally ignore him. Even though we had a great conversation.
Sunkissedpatio Posted November 22, 2016 Posted November 22, 2016 Ya wondering same, what does "heated discussion" mean in this context? Unless you got into an argument of sorts, I would definitely send her one more message.
Author you_can_not_see_me Posted November 22, 2016 Author Posted November 22, 2016 Yea I was gonna say if I guy just left me his phone number without asking mine I would totally ignore him. Even though we had a great conversation. why ignore him?
bighearted Posted November 22, 2016 Posted November 22, 2016 Next time ask for her number. Don't offer yours. Yea I was gonna say if I guy just left me his phone number without asking mine I would totally ignore him. Even though we had a great conversation. I find this funny and interesting that y'all say this. Because I've found on Tinder that the best way to get a girl's number after a decent conversation in the app, is to simply say something like "Well, if you'd like to continue talking or would like to meet up sometime, text me. Here's my number: XXX-XXX-XXXX" (Or something more specific depending on our conversation.) They have texted me 95% of the time. IMO it's because they feel a little more comfortable as they aren't just pressured by another guy asking them to give him their number. They like having the ball in their court. But what do I know.
TheTraveler Posted November 22, 2016 Posted November 22, 2016 but I d be kinda disappointed if this was it since the girl seemed like a great match. It's tinder. Definitely do not get hung up on anyone there. For example, last night matched with a 28 yr old attractive blonde girl, commented on one of her pictures specifically and went from there. 14 messages back and forth over 2+ hours and I have her digits. That is just one girl and I'm doing the same with others.
Frozensushi Posted November 22, 2016 Posted November 22, 2016 It's tinder. Definitely do not get hung up on anyone there. For example, last night matched with a 28 yr old attractive blonde girl, commented on one of her pictures specifically and went from there. 14 messages back and forth over 2+ hours and I have her digits. That is just one girl and I'm doing the same with others. That's what you have to keep in mind. OP, the girl you are sort of hung up on probably has 10+ other matches she's corresponding with. You can't get too hung up on any one match if you haven't even met. On-line dating is not easy, especially if the ratio of men to women is unbalanced. You just have to work on your approach and strike while the iron is hot.
LD1990 Posted November 22, 2016 Posted November 22, 2016 People say you shouldn't be desperate, but that only works for people who don't deal with scarcity. There are billions of women on this planet and if there's one thing I've learned, it's that there's always another hot woman right around the corner. The scarcity issue is all about you. If you have trouble getting women, the solution is not to obsess over the few who give you a shot, it's to improve your skills and your overall attractiveness. 1
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