Daisy711 Posted November 21, 2016 Posted November 21, 2016 I go to a very small church and adore my church family. Well the pastor's son and I were messaging on FB, and he turned the convo flirty and sent a meme of a couple cuddling. I told him he has a gf, and he replied nvm and ugh. I know, rated g, but flirting is flirting, and church is the one place I should be safe and respected. He had the nerve to say he'd been hacked. Um, yeah. At what point in the convo, and magically he was back on to tell me he was hacked (and needs a new password)!? He's the pastor's son and shouldn't be disrespecting other women, and lying about it. I feel like he pushed the limit, I called him out and he tried covering up. I just want him to admit he was wrong and apologize, but I know that won't happen. It's going to be weird around him, and his gf, and I'm not sure what to do. Just smile and accept his lies? Act like it never happened? Or ignore him? On a random note... He's a Saggittarius like another guy I dealt with (and the other guy also claimed to be a Christian and wanted to wait to be intimate for religious reasons, but tried getting in my pants the first time we hung out, before getting weird about things). Hmm, so avoid Sags, or know the difference between a Christian boy and a Godly man.
ElizabethIII Posted November 21, 2016 Posted November 21, 2016 Just block him on facebook and ignore him in real life. What do you want an admission and an apology for? He isnt your boyfriend. If he wants to behave in an immoral way whilst claiming to be a Christian, nothing you can do to change that. 1
basil67 Posted November 21, 2016 Posted November 21, 2016 Being a pastor's son does not and should not define him or his behaviour. What I see is a teenage boy who made a poor decision and you're expecting better of him because of who he happened to be born to. It was a minimal flirt by a silly teenage boy. While you are absolutely within your rights to reject the flirting, I suggest you get off your righteous high horse and forget about it. 2
Author Daisy711 Posted November 22, 2016 Author Posted November 22, 2016 I go to a very small church and adore my church family. Well the pastor's son and I were messaging on FB, and he turned the convo flirty and sent a meme of a couple cuddling. I told him he has a gf, and he replied nvm and ugh. I know, rated g, but flirting is flirting, and church is the one place I should be safe and respected. He had the nerve to say he'd been hacked. Um, yeah. At what point in the convo, and magically he was back on to tell me he was hacked (and needs a new password)!? He's the pastor's son and shouldn't be disrespecting other women, and lying about it. I feel like he pushed the limit, I called him out and he tried covering up. I just want him to admit he was wrong and apologize, but I know that won't happen. It's going to be weird around him, and his gf, and I'm not sure what to do. Just smile and accept his lies? Act like it never happened? Or ignore him? On a random note... He's a Saggittarius like another guy I dealt with (and the other guy also claimed to be a Christian and wanted to wait to be intimate for religious reasons, but tried getting in my pants the first time we hung out, before getting weird about things). Hmm, so avoid Sags, or know the difference between a Christian boy and a Godly man. He's nearly 30. Being the pastor's son, and I'm close with the church, who has under 20 regular members, I see him often. His family has had me over, invited me to dinner, and I've visited other member's home. So yes flirting is innocent, cuddling is innocent, but it's the overall point of being disrespectful and lying, and really not being able to avoid him.
basil67 Posted November 22, 2016 Posted November 22, 2016 He's 30? Change my comment from "teenage boy" to "immature man". The rest of it stands though. You can't hold him to the same standards of his father because he didn't choose this life.
ElizabethIII Posted November 22, 2016 Posted November 22, 2016 What is your point about him being a Sagittarius? Astrology is a form of divination and is expressly forbidden in the Bible. God specifies astrologers as among those who will be burned as stubble in God’s judgment (Isaiah 47:13-14). For all your going to church and pontificating about being a good Christian, you have not listened either. 3
Author Daisy711 Posted November 22, 2016 Author Posted November 22, 2016 What is your point about him being a Sagittarius? Astrology is a form of divination and is expressly forbidden in the Bible. God specifies astrologers as among those who will be burned as stubble in God’s judgment (Isaiah 47:13-14). For all your going to church and pontificating about being a good Christian, you have not listened either. That comment was more of a joke...
Nowty V Posted November 22, 2016 Posted November 22, 2016 the guy's a creep, treat him the same way you would treat a creep in any other walk of life
Methodical Posted November 22, 2016 Posted November 22, 2016 Wow, like basil, I thought this was a teenage thing. He isn't his father. His flirty comments offended you and you called him out. I think it was cowardly to lie and cry "hacked" instead of apologizing and telling you he didn't mean to offend you. That said, some ppl are easily offended whereas others are thick skinned. I'd leave it alone and move on.
Poutrew Posted November 22, 2016 Posted November 22, 2016 So what are you wanting from him? Are you going to publicly accuse him of deviltry in front of the congregation and expect a public flogging? C'mon Daisy, don't go all 'children of the corn' on him... He's a man, you turned him on, he got scared when you went righteous on him and panicked. That's all there is to it. Believe me, he is so scared of you at this point that even if you appeared naked in front of him, he'd run away. You made your point, so let it alone... 1
Author Daisy711 Posted November 22, 2016 Author Posted November 22, 2016 So what are you wanting from him? Are you going to publicly accuse him of deviltry in front of the congregation and expect a public flogging? C'mon Daisy, don't go all 'children of the corn' on him... He's a man, you turned him on, he got scared when you went righteous on him and panicked. That's all there is to it. Believe me, he is so scared of you at this point that even if you appeared naked in front of him, he'd run away. You made your point, so let it alone... Hahaha I'm really not perfect by any means and aren't trying to appear like I'm without fault... Guess it's hard to understand from my perspective, but I like what you said
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