SummerRae Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 What I’m wondering is: some people say you never really get over someone until you meet someone new, well then how do I know if I’m just dwelling on the past ex?? When do you know if you’re ready to date again?? I know I was never over my last ex before I got involved with my recent ex, even though it had been a year. I didn’t think about much, mind you, but it was still there, underneath somewhere…
westernxer Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 You'll know you're ready when you no longer want him, even though you're not dating anyone else at the moment.
Author SummerRae Posted July 13, 2005 Author Posted July 13, 2005 thanks Westerner......... I can't wait to get to that point. Right now I don't want anyone, even though I go through temp moments where I think someone may be able to fill that void hole.... I know I MUST wait it out!
JAyJAy Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 Oh rea what to say...You and only you would know when and how you are ready. It doesnt have to take one jerk to get rid of another.That is why we tend to fall into a pattern of heartbroken memories...We look for the next one to cure the last one..This time dont do that, look from within and get rid of him..That way you can be prepared and you can realize what mistakes to look for in the next one and let him go before its too late and you end right back here again..Think straight!!!!
butterfly29 Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 Originally posted by JAyJAy Oh rea what to say...You and only you would know when and how you are ready. It doesnt have to take one jerk to get rid of another.That is why we tend to fall into a pattern of heartbroken memories...We look for the next one to cure the last one..This time dont do that, look from within and get rid of him..That way you can be prepared and you can realize what mistakes to look for in the next one and let him go before its too late and you end right back here again..Think straight!!!! I agree! Many times. People say the best way to get over somebody is to get under somebody else. Don't believe them. Usually when people do that they find themselves right back where they're started.
ErinErinErin Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 But getting under someone else can't hurt either...
JAyJAy Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Originally posted by ErinErinErin But getting under someone else can't hurt either... No it may kill you!!!!
Author SummerRae Posted July 14, 2005 Author Posted July 14, 2005 The last thing I want to do right now is get under someone...... Although I do remember a time when the thought held appeal. Right now, I'm just in POOR ME state......... I'll get over it......
Author SummerRae Posted July 14, 2005 Author Posted July 14, 2005 Originally posted by JAyJAy Good girl rea, dont be a statistic... lol, i'll try
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 I've alway's taken time between relationships and kinda go back to my roots.. I do things that make me happy like woodworking or reconnecting with my family I know it's time to date when the Dog no longer wants to listen to me and my problems.
miriam Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 My ex and I broke up a few weeks ago. I have been asked out on a few dates, but I don't think I am ready yet. I have noticed that when I am out with my friends and a guy tries to talk to me I get very aggitated. I am not rude, but inside it makes me soo mad.
butterfly29 Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Yeah, I ended up in bed with someone else the next week after my ex broke up with me. At the time I just bitterly thought to myself, why the hell not! It helped. For about 2 months. Now I'm back to missing my ex stage. After 4 months, as if it happened 2 weeks ago.
Opium Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Originally posted by SummerRae What I’m wondering is: some people say you never really get over someone until you meet someone new, well then how do I know if I’m just dwelling on the past ex?? When do you know if you’re ready to date again?? I know I was never over my last ex before I got involved with my recent ex, even though it had been a year. I didn’t think about much, mind you, but it was still there, underneath somewhere… You bring up an interesting point. Everyone has their "time" limit and when they feel healthy enough to start a new relationship but it takes time as you may already know. What you have to ask yourself is, Will I still compare him to my EX? Do I constantly think about my EX more than I should? Am I ready to be loved and cared for by another man? You may just want to date and not be committed to anyone for now. When it was a good relationship and it was a long one for that matter, those memories are never going to erase. Heck even when you have a bad relationship you still dwell sometimes on how horrible it was. Every person you meet or date will leave a scar in your heart, especially if you loved them.
tanbark813 Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 For me personally, I know I'm over an ex when I can look at a picture of them and not get all sappy and retarded.
J dub Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Originally posted by tanbark813 For me personally, I know I'm over an ex when I can look at a picture of them and not get all sappy and retarded. i just got sappy and retarded lookin at the date u registered...when me and my ex got together
tanbark813 Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Originally posted by J dub i just got sappy and retarded lookin at the date u registered...when me and my ex got together Aww.. well just don't do that again for another few months.
alphamale Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Originally posted by SummerRae When do you know if you’re ready to date again?? You'll know...it's instinctual.
Author SummerRae Posted July 16, 2005 Author Posted July 16, 2005 Originally posted by miriam My ex and I broke up a few weeks ago. I have been asked out on a few dates, but I don't think I am ready yet. I have noticed that when I am out with my friends and a guy tries to talk to me I get very aggitated. I am not rude, but inside it makes me soo mad. TOTALLY! That's how I feel too. The other night at the pub a guy I was talking to tried to hold my hand and I felt like slugging him. Then this guy asked me to dance and I was like NOOOOOOOOOO. Get away! (didn't say that mind you, but........man did I want to!) Even the hot guys just turn me off lately........ part of the process I suppose.
Author SummerRae Posted July 16, 2005 Author Posted July 16, 2005 Originally posted by butterfly29 Yeah, I ended up in bed with someone else the next week after my ex broke up with me. At the time I just bitterly thought to myself, why the hell not! It helped. For about 2 months. Now I'm back to missing my ex stage. After 4 months, as if it happened 2 weeks ago. Yep, I had two rebound make-outs........ when I was hammered. I felt soo grossed out after kissing him. I was like my heart is NOT in this. I realized that a rebound could/would never work for me at this point in my life.
Author SummerRae Posted July 16, 2005 Author Posted July 16, 2005 Originally posted by Opium Every person you meet or date will leave a scar in your heart, especially if you loved them. Isn't that the Truth...... my first Love left a battle wound......... but it has pretty much faded. This last Love was/is a bit of a stinger... but I know it'll be fine.
niko1999 Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 How can you tell if its just a rebound, or if you really are getting over someone? I dont know if my ex is my ex, what the story is between us, but Ive been kind of dating this guy at work, We spent all last weekend together, the other night together. He is so much fun and makes me laugh, holds the door fro me, even the car door, he even rolls down the window for me before I get in! Why he is still single is beyond me, but I guess theyre loss is my gain. I dont know. Im having fun with it. But I do miss my maybe ex
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted July 22, 2005 Posted July 22, 2005 I have one of those too! I'm the type who tends to find a replacement first, some of us just work that way okay? I miss my maybe-ex. Summer, a month and a half is not very long. Just be you, have your pity parties and drunkfests, and just have fun. While I know I need to try and stay single a while longer, I hate the thought of spending my summer weekends alone.
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