Question for those moved on and then became friends.How does ur curretn SO feel?

[emotionsmessmeup]

Ok...I am wondering if you are married...how does ur spouse feel for those who become friends with exes?

Is it acceptable?

[JAyJAy]

They are called exes for a reason. Having an ex as a friend especially if your married is a big no no, many reasons why..Read between the lines. Its ok to have your old friends enjoy your new life with your spouse, but think about it?? Who wants to see and share thier new life with thier spouses ex. I couldnt. I dont think many people can either.

[Sal Paradise]

I wouldn't be with someone who was friends with an ex.

[d'Arthez]

Why would that be impossible?

 

Unless the ex is "an evil conniving b*stard / b*tch", as exes are often portrayed by their "flawless" counterparts, I can't see why it would be an impossibility.

 

Relationships that don't work, don't necessarily have to end badly, but can end amicably as well.

[JAyJAy]

When an ex becomes an ex its for a reason. If you have children with them it's understanding. No one is saying that you have to be an enemy with your ex. However, when your married thats a whole new ball game. Your vowing to be with this person for the rest of your life. Why would you want your ex to be involved with your new beginning. Its only setting you up for self distruction.... ITS A BIG NO NO!!!!

[Zaira]

People become exes for various reasons. It may be that they've always been good friends, but the sizzle of a relationship never stayed. Why should you then have to ditch that person out of your life? As long as your partner can accept it, then why not stay friends? I am friends with a couple of my exes, and if I ever got married, then I'd probably like to see us all be mates.

[Kat]

It really depends on what kind of relationship it was.

 

I broke up with all of my ex's and m partner knows that I would never EVER go back to any of them, so he has no issues there

 

As for it being acceptable or not, it is up to the two people involved...no one else.

[A Fly onThe Wall]

Originally posted by d'Arthez

Relationships that don't work, don't necessarily have to end badly, but can end amicably as well.

 

I agree d'Arthez .. I am friends with some of my ex girlfriends and even my exwife .. I think it all depends on what your relationship was like while you were together and how the breakup went . If turmoil played a part in either then it is a harder hurdle to accomplish.