mortensorchid Posted November 21, 2016 Posted November 21, 2016 I've been chatting with this guy for the last few days/weeks through Facebook. For more information, see this thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/600020-facebook-chat We exchanged a video chat or two through an app called Marco Polo (someone sent me a link to it), then took it to another level tonight. I suggested we talk on Skype. This was the first time we actually talked talked. He Skyped me in the middle of a bar / coffee shop. He lives in CA but is moving back to my city in a few weeks, he wanted to meet me. Impressions of him? He's kind of a hippie, looks like an aging Evan Dando from The Lemonheads. (Google it) How do I feel? I was thinking he was cruising for 21 year olds when I first encountered him, but he said otherwise. And he seems to be that. I called a mutual friend and asked him if he was on the strait and narrow, he said he was. Reservations? I don't really have any at this moment. I agreed to meet him if and when he gets here. I'm not totally sure if he's looking for sex or not, this is a situation I have never been in (and I have been in plenty of strange ones). I guess all you can do is go forth and hope for good things to happen. If he's weird ... I can back off of course. Just wanted to share.
gorf Posted November 21, 2016 Posted November 21, 2016 I read the fb chat. I read your previous thread and this one. My impression: he is moving back into town and wants a woman ready and waiting. So he lined one up. You. If you really want to see if he is for real, which given the circumstances and convo, I doubt. But if you want to see if he is for real or just after sex: hold off on sex. Not just for a few days. Tell him you like to get to know someone really well first. Dont give him a time, just wait like 2 months. Watch his actions. If he gets bored really quick and not making an effort to get to know you and show his care or interest etc etc for you, then you know what he was really looking for
Grey40 Posted November 21, 2016 Posted November 21, 2016 ^^ gorf hit the nail on the head. Sounds like he wants a hookup for when he's in town, but if you have the will power to turn down his advances, you'll be fine and you'll know whether he's actually interested
PogoStick Posted November 21, 2016 Posted November 21, 2016 Another perspective: Wait 2 months? At that point I'd be moving on and looking for a girl who isn't playing games.
Author mortensorchid Posted November 22, 2016 Author Posted November 22, 2016 ^^ gorf hit the nail on the head. Sounds like he wants a hookup for when he's in town, but if you have the will power to turn down his advances, you'll be fine and you'll know whether he's actually interested The more I chat with him, the more I think this is the case. Don't worry, I won't keep my expectations high in this situation. I guess I will just have to "feel it" (no pun intended) if I want to do any sexy time with him, but that's all it is.
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