longroad Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 separated from ex-girl for a couple months. stopped talking for a little while. she told me she had sex with someone, it lasted about 30 seconds and she was drunk. when we spoke she was really screwed up in her head, upset, with the fact she has done this. has anyone had this situation? i love her, should i try again? she says it was the biggest mistake she can never take back.
Author longroad Posted July 13, 2005 Author Posted July 13, 2005 i also slept with someone else during this time.
westernxer Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 What's the big deal? The two of you were separated during that time. And how the hell does sex last 30 seconds? Did they do it in a microwave?
Author longroad Posted July 13, 2005 Author Posted July 13, 2005 the big deal to me is we were together for 5 yrs. she has only been with me in any way and it bothers me a little, so i dont know.
westernxer Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 Naturally it'll bother you, but you weren't together and the deed is done. If you can't let it go, then don't take her back, 'cause you'll end up resenting her. Why'd you split up? That's what I wanna know.
Moose Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 Originally posted by longroad the big deal to me is we were together for 5 yrs. she has only been with me in any way and it bothers me a little, so i dont know. K, SO, she's only been with you, and this other guy so far. Apparently, the other guy couldn't last more than 30 seconds. I'd say your hand just got a helluva lot better. After all, she's had sex with 2 guys.....which guy would she prefer to sleep with again? I'd play my hand for everything it's worth and make her believe you hung the moon!! Man, I can be so evil sometimes.......
longroad1 Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 i am the same person as longroad. well she told me in detail upon my request as much as it hurt her. she pushed away, went into the bathroom and puked and then got in the shower. then she says she thought about me during everything. i figure i can face it, and in 6 months. i should be past it. i think im strong enough. we broke up because we were getting really careless of eachother as far as caring. and she wanted to live her life without me for a while.
Moose Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 Well, now that that's over.....I'd say hang for a while. I think you'll find her feelings will be a lot stronger for you now.
westernxer Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 Don't get back together until you know you can handle this. Does she you know you slept with someone, too?
longroad1 Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 she does not know what i did. im not gonna tell her either.
westernxer Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Then don't give her sh*t about sleeping with someone else, even though it only lasted 30 seconds. On another note... man, you've got her right where you want her. I have to give you props there. However, if she ever finds out you weren't up front with her, you're history.
RecordProducer Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 I don't get this. The two of you were separated; she had a terrible short intercourse with someone and she regrets it; you had sex, but didn't tell her; you're bothered by what she did as if she cheated on you. Can anyone explain to me what the problem is please? I am either stupid or it's just this particular situation that is beyond my scope of understanding. Longroad, are you one of the guys who think that he can have sex with others but she is not allowed to have it even when she is not your girlfriend?
westernxer Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Originally posted by RecordProducer Longroad, are you one of the guys who think that he can have sex with others but she is not allowed to have it even when she is not your girlfriend? Apparently, unless there's more he isn't telling us.
longroad1 Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 you are right, i have no right to be upset, well a little. the past is the past, maybe it happened for a reason, and hopefully we can grow from this. i love her, and i know she loves me. me being the only one she has ever been with is what bothered me, but nobodys perfect. i know im not.i know ill grow from this either way.
longroad1 Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 and thanks to everyone who commented, i do appreciate it. it set me straight.
westernxer Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Good luck, man. Hope the two of you can make each other happy.
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