sunshine2 Posted November 21, 2016 Posted November 21, 2016 I am dating a new guy and he is so good to me. I am attracted to him, he is sweet, loving and treats me really good. It is fairly new, but I am happy that we found each other. Today I noticed my X BF's truck parked on a street in my town that is a common street I drive on to go downtown. It was parked in front of a duplex. My heart sank. I thought he must be dating someone here in town. I drove by again and now his work truck is there, so he must be spending the night because tomorrow is a workday. He owns his own business and I know his routine. My heart sank again and I feel sick to my stomach. Why does he have to be dating someone in my town, why not in his or another town? I DO NOT want to run into him at this point. Im not sure why I feel anything, because he was terrible to me. We dated for a year and I did post about him here. He was unaffectionate, terrible in bed, very selfish. He would talk bad about other races and had a lot of strong opinions that I did not agree with. He had lots of drama with his X wife and his kids, it was always about what he had going on. He did make me laugh at times and I saw glimmers of something good in him, but that was rare. He never told me how he felt about me, rarely spent the night or had me spend the night. He called me his girlfriend, but it was not a good relationship in the long run. I finally gave up and broke up with him. So I guess I am wondering if I feel this way because I don't want him to be happy or if I feel it was just me who he treated that way and this new women will get all the good stuff I didn't get. I really don't like this feeling. We have been broken up for 8 months now and were only together for a year, in fact, I broke up with him the day after our 1 year anniversary that he never even recognized. Uggh, I don't want him back and don't ever want to be treated that badly. Why do I feel sick when I see his truck?
gorf Posted November 21, 2016 Posted November 21, 2016 I am dating a new guy and he is so good to me. I am attracted to him, he is sweet, loving and treats me really good. It is fairly new, but I am happy that we found each other. So I guess I am wondering if I feel this way because I don't want him to be happy or if I feel it was just me who he treated that way and this new women will get all the good stuff I didn't get. Why do I feel sick when I see his truck? You feel sick when you see his truck and memories flood back, then you imagine him dating someone else. Whether he is or is not, that does not change the reasons why you ended it. Your reasons are solid and are the same today and tomorrow just as they were when you broke up, feelings aside. Remember that. She is going to have to deal with all that too, so you can feel sorry for her and nothing for him, cause his chance came and went. He took a 0. Sunshine2.... this Ex, ok.. forget him. You have a new man who treats you right and is better. Take all your mental and physical energy you are wasting worrying about this looser ex, and give it to this great new guy. Use that energy to build up the new relationship. Dont let the dead one in the past steal any more energy and feeling, its done. 1
Author sunshine2 Posted November 21, 2016 Author Posted November 21, 2016 Thank you for your reply. You are 100% correct, its time to put all this energy into my new guy and I am trying to as we speak. My daughter who is 32, told me that she feels sorry for the new gal and that most people just repeat the same cycles you don't want him anyway, so let it be. Pretty smart of her! 1
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