Relationship limbo

[taffy1990]

Hi to cut long story short my bf has been acting strange, distant angry and been sometimes ignoring my phone calls since friday. This came out of nowhere as we had a good pleasant conversation on thursday no issues. When i did manage to try talk to him this sunday all i got was abrupt short answers as if i was bothering him. Then i asked if everything was okay as it seemed he had an issue and i was not sure what was going on he started shouting at me telling me he was in a good mood till i called and that i should not call him unless i have something interesting to say. All these hurtful words im not sure were they coming from or why? At this point i dont know what to think his 42 and im 26 and we been together for 2 years. Also i suffer from chest pains which are mainly caused by anxiety and stress which he also knows about. If he wants out of relationship thats fine it will hurt but i can accept things and move on... i not the begging type all id want to do once i know were i stand is collect all my belongings at his house and carry on with my life. However when we broke up before last year he held all my stuff at his house hostage for a month,blocked me when i tried to ask for them back and i had to wait for him to unblock me and even when he did he still dragged giving it all back. We reconciled and everthing has been good since now. I dont want to repeat same mistakes of being broken up but still being tied to him through wanting my belongings which are valuable and no i cant just replace them as i dont have a lot of money right now. He is the type to get angry quickly when confronted and cant let go of his anger until his satisfied i have suffered enough im starting to realise. When we spoke and i asked him if he doesnt want me to call him or if he wants to breakup just say so and i can deal with it he avoided the question so im at a loss on how to proceed.

[LastAcorn99]

I’m sorry about your situation, Taffy. From what you’ve shard, it looks like your boyfriend is controlling and has anger issues -- this is concerning. If you have your own place to go back to, i would suggest that you take some time off from your boyfriend and spend some time with friends who can support and encourage you. Please take good care of yourself, okay? ((Hugs))