EssoJnr Posted November 21, 2016 Posted November 21, 2016 Despite this happening a few months ago now, the mixed messages and just everything that happened still annoy/toy with me to this day. I'm at university and during my first year I lived in student accommodation. A guy from the flat next door to mine (and another guy a few floors below who knows him from home) had a number of friends come to visit for a night out. All of my friends were going out so I tagged along too. The friends that were visiting all attend different universities all over the country but funnily enough, where we live back home (our real home) is within about half an hour distance of each other. They basically live in the next county over from mine. I got talking to one of these friends whilst at the pre-drinks before we headed out. We hit it off straight away and kept talking to each other throughout the night. He's a nice guy, pretty shy and certainly the quietest out of all of the friends who came to visit. Some of the guys who were there were acting out and trying to impress all the girls it seemed but this guy was pretty chilled. After a longer conversation he began making comments about when we were home for the holidays that he'd like to take me out for a drink. I should also say he said this 2 other times throughout the night. The club was about 5 minutes away so we walked it. I walked with him and a few others but mainly him. We talked in the queue to the club and I was beginning to feel an attraction to this guy, so subtly asked him if he was talking to/seeing any other girls at his uni. He said he wasn't and that he wanted someone who was 'real'. We then got separated when we got inside. I found him again pretty quickly and at this point we went onto the crowded dancefloor and began dancing just the two of us. The crowd got more jam-packed as the night went on and we found ourselves being forced closer and closer together. We then kissed, quite a few times. This dancing/kissing interlude happened for around half an hour before we decided to go and find the rest of the friends in the club. We found them but continued to remain together. I don't like to stay out too often when clubbing so when it reached my peak I said to him I was going to head back to my halls. He'd given me his number this point so I assumed he'd just leave me to it, want me to drop him a text and leave it. He then said 'am I invited?' I answered 'ok' within about 2 seconds and headed back. On the way home he suggested again that we meet up when we're back. I don't need to explain what happened when I got back other than that we hooked up. It was obviously at this point his friends had realized he was missing and were texting him asking where he was as we hadn't told anyone where we were going. He asked me when I was home and suggested meeting up again before ringing his friends and leaving because they were worried about him. A couple of days later I added him on Facebook and he accepted. I text him about a week later because I wanted to speak to him again. He replied to my original text, asking how I was, I responded with a question and he didn't say anything after that. I saw him again a few weeks ago as he was visiting his friends again and we spoke but it was just general catchup and not a long enough conversation to really say anything about that night. I'm feeling pretty gutted. Sorry that this is a long post, I just wanted to get everything down that was important. I don't know why he continually suggested meeting up when we were home and never following through. He's a nice guy and I would like the opportunity to get to know him better. Any advice on these mixed messages?
ja123 Posted November 21, 2016 Posted November 21, 2016 Sounds like he's not that interested. Sorry. If he were really interested, then he would be pursuing you, not giving you mixed messages. Lay low and don't contact him anymore or "like" his FB posts. See whether he comes to you, but try not to get your hopes up.
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