whyohwhy101 Posted November 20, 2016 Posted November 20, 2016 I just had sex for the first time with a new guy. To tell you all the truth it wasn't great....he even laughed during at how awkward it was. I left pretty swiftly afterwards. I'm worried about what he thinks of me now. Is all the attraction gone from his end because fireworks weren't going off the first time? Would you call it quits after a poor first round? Thanks for all your advice, you guys are great!
Nowty V Posted November 20, 2016 Posted November 20, 2016 Is he a nice Man? Does he respect who you are? If he is not an exceptional sort, move on.
basil67 Posted November 20, 2016 Posted November 20, 2016 Leaving swiftly afterwards does send the sign that you want to be away from him. Perhaps you need to listen to your instincts. 1
Author whyohwhy101 Posted November 20, 2016 Author Posted November 20, 2016 Yes, I think I was just feeling very embarrassed about how poorly it had gone. I had one of those moments where after it finished I just wanted to find my clothes and run away. I like him as a person and we have so much 'chemistry' and sexual tension, I just don't understand what happened between the sheets.
Mkn1010 Posted November 20, 2016 Posted November 20, 2016 When that happened to me, I really wish I listened to my gut instincts. In my case, I just didn't feel at ease/comfortable with the person and needed to leave afterwards. I ended up giving the dynamic more time but it never got better and I knew deep down from the FIRST time that we were sexually incompatible, I just didn't want to accept it as everything else was spot on! 1
mortensorchid Posted November 20, 2016 Posted November 20, 2016 This is a sticky situation ... I hate to say it, but I can tell you that I have never had bad sex. There are times when there is a different vibe to it, to be sure. (Ex. Once me and a past bf - the love of my life - were doing a lot of experimentation and he wanted to watch porn with me. We did, and I said afterward it was kind of scary, he was certainly more aggressive with me and I felt it.) But it's a double edged sword - How to improve when the sex is bad but you otherwise like the person? Here's an article from Men's Health that might help you (women can take pointers as well): Bad Sex or Wrong Partner? - 8 Ways to Tell If You're Sexually Incompatible - Men's Journal
Gloria25 Posted November 21, 2016 Posted November 21, 2016 Meh, I know first times can be awkward, but if it sucks, then maybe that's a bad sign. On Sex and the City, Carrie's first time with Berger sucked, and so did her RL with him. No wonder why his ex hated him.
thecrucible Posted November 21, 2016 Posted November 21, 2016 It can be awkward the first time. And if he laughed, hey maybe he's just really comfortable with himself. The main thing I'd look out for is whether he's attentive to your needs and how much that is a part of his personality in general as guys like this are better lovers.
TheTraveler Posted November 21, 2016 Posted November 21, 2016 Yes, I think I was just feeling very embarrassed about how poorly it had gone. I had one of those moments where after it finished I just wanted to find my clothes and run away. I like him as a person and we have so much 'chemistry' and sexual tension, I just don't understand what happened between the sheets. wow that's bad. I think you know the answer. Dump him and move on
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