offwithhishead Posted November 20, 2016 Posted November 20, 2016 They say that the five closest people to you in your life are the best representations of you in all facets of life, including dating. The five closest people to me have no trouble dating and attracting the opposite sex. This includes 4 guys and 1 girl. In fact, out of the five, I am the only single person left. We totally match on other aspects of our lives. We have very similar views on life in general and value similar things. That's why we're close in the first place because we can talk about anything and although we dont' necessarily agree on everything, there's a feeling we're all on the same wavelength. I've also never gotten the impression from my friends that I'm the odd leper. You know how pretty girls usually need an ugly best friend to go to the bar with? I don't know if guys have the equivalent but I'm very sure that amongst my friends, I'm a valued and equal member. We've also had conversations on dating and they are sensitive enough to not make me uncomfortable about being single but at the same time, I could detect a certain kind of genuine wonder that they couldn't figure out WHY it's so hard for me to attract girls. In their minds, they feel that plenty of girls should at least want to go on dates with me. I feel like I've had the same opportunities that they've had in terms of meeting girls but it just never works out for me. I don't mean they had it easy either. They've had breakups, heartbreak and loss just like everyone else. But I feel like I have it so much harder and I don't know why. These are friends that have been around for a long time too. It's not like they entered my life in recent years. One of them I've known for 10 years. They know me through all the ups and downs and there have been many. They've seen me at my best and my worst. And I've seen them progress too. Somehow a girl just pops up out of nowhere and enters into their life. One guy hooked up with a mutual friend who none of us ever thought there'd be any potential but it just worked and they're married now. Another friend of mine met his fiance on tinder even though he's never had ANY success with dating apps and never thought in a million years he'd find his future wife on tinder. Meanwhile, I've tried everything. Dating apps, mutual friends, blind date setup, online dating, meeting people through meetup.com, traveling in a group....nothing works. I just don't get the same level of interest as them. And even if it did work, the relationship ended due to incompatibility or other reasons. It's gotten to the point now where I'm avoiding social gatherings because I just have nothing to say or report anymore.
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