mmx7979 Posted November 20, 2016 Posted November 20, 2016 (edited) I got to know that girl on tinder like a bit more than a week ago and we were meeting up for a coffee date during working hours 3 days after. It was a 1hour long date and it really went well. I let her talk most of the time and didn't revealed so much from my side in order to stay interesting. I texted her on same day in the evening stating that I had a great time and that I would like her to meet again. I had to wait until the next day for a response from her but it was positive and we made new plans for Saturday (I invited her for dinner). Again it was a really good time with each other - having good conversations, laughing a lot and getting to know each other. This date lastet like more than 3 hours. I didn't try to kiss her or hold hands because I believe it is still to early. She is 35 and I'm 37 years old and both of us going right now through a separation that I do not want to rush things and not to mention that I'm very rusty with dating. We parted from each other with an intensive hug. Once again I texted her 1 hour after our second date saying that I really like spending time with her because she is funny, smart and attractive and that I would like to repeat seeing her. Well, no response from her again and I used the night thinking if I should have made a move or not. This morning I wrote her a message asking if she is still interested in meeting me. Finally 2 hours after she responded positive saying that she had a good time last night and that we should find something to do during next week. I know as a man I have to take the lead so I suggested Tuesday or Wednesday going to the Christmas market in town only to get a counter offer that she is busy but could meet me for lunsh/coffee Wednesday. Well, what makes me confused is that she is willing to have a third date with me but with lunch during work time. This will make it again difficult to make a move on her because we will sit at a table and have conversations again. How can I make during day time clear that I really like her physically? Any advice? I really like this girl and do not want to screw up anything. I don't think that trying to kiss her on a date like that is appropriate and like I said - it wl be nearly impossible anyways. Any suggestions? Why do I always have to wait at least 12 hours until she responds to my messages? Is it a game girls play? Does she like me but doesn't want to show her eagerness? I have to add that she works a lot - even during weekends hence she is some kind of lawyer. Thanks for you advices beforehand Edited November 22, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
ja123 Posted November 21, 2016 Posted November 21, 2016 Some people delay responding so as to not appear too eager. Or, they're just showing you early that they're not that much into texting. Personally, at your age, I'd call rather than text. If you have texted her, then definitely wait 48 hours before contacting her again. No need to get physical so quickly, just meet her for lunch on Wednesday! Good luck! 1
mushroomlol Posted November 21, 2016 Posted November 21, 2016 You can hold her hands? Maybe she is not that eager now. If you really like her, make sure you make the dinner plan during your third meetup. 1
LD1990 Posted November 21, 2016 Posted November 21, 2016 Go for a walk after lunch. Hold hands or put your arm around her. Find a somewhat private area to stop and relax. Kiss her. With tongue, and grab her ass while you do so. Taking it slow is great if your goal is to make her wonder "is he gay?" People enjoy physical contact. If she likes you, she wants you to touch her, to initiate contact with her. So man up and do it. No guts, no glory.
Author mmx7979 Posted November 22, 2016 Author Posted November 22, 2016 Okay, tomorrow is the day. She offered me the area and I was choosing the restaurant. So I reserved a table today at a nice private spot. I will pass by the restaurant tomorrow before the meeting in order to put a white rose on the table. Then I will pick her up from the metro station and I decided to take her hand on the way to the restaurant. In the restaurant I will sit next to her and I will see what will happen and if she will give me any signs.
ja123 Posted November 22, 2016 Posted November 22, 2016 No, don't go to the effort of putting a rose on the table. It'll freak her out ... it's too soon.
TheTraveler Posted November 22, 2016 Posted November 22, 2016 (edited) Okay, tomorrow is the day. She offered me the area and I was choosing the restaurant. So I reserved a table today at a nice private spot. I will pass by the restaurant tomorrow before the meeting in order to put a white rose on the table. Then I will pick her up from the metro station and I decided to take her hand on the way to the restaurant. In the restaurant I will sit next to her and I will see what will happen and if she will give me any signs. Why bother with the rose? Also, if I was in your shoes I would not have committed to a lunch date. Good luck though. Oh and go for the kiss Edited November 22, 2016 by TheTraveler
LD1990 Posted November 22, 2016 Posted November 22, 2016 A white rose? You gonna hire Celine Dion to stand by your table and sing a few ballads while you're at it? The rose thing is an absolutely horrible idea. She's not your girlfriend, the farthest you've gotten is an "intensive hug." Cut the romance movie bullsh*t and focus on building sexual attraction.
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