sensitivegirl0 Posted November 20, 2016 Posted November 20, 2016 Hello everyone. So i am in love with my eye care professional, lets call him Andrew. He is as young as me in his mid twenties and i know him for 2 years now when i first went for a check up. Then I started going there one in every two months as I have a problem with my eyes which needs check up. The problem is that when I met him, I was dating his friend (not knowing they are friends). We dated for 2 months. We didnt have sex. Just went on dates etc. He got married a year ago. And this friend is someone who he sees at work. They are not best friends but know each other for a long time. So when we first met Andrew had a girlfriend and was cold (or lets say professional) towards me every time I went for check ups. But then he asked me to add him on a social media platform to keep in touch easily if i had any problem regarding my eyes. Soon I started to realise we have so much in common. I always felt attracted to him and the more time passed the more I started to develop feelings. And I feel that he gets shy when he talks to me, also I sometimes feel that he likes me too. He broke up with his girlfriend a year ago and he has been messaging me once in while to talk about a football team that we both like. He invited me to a match few months ago but I couldnt go. Then he invited me again to another match that he was going along with is friend. But I got so nervous around him that I couldnt even look at him. He was nervous too (or maybe not interested?) so he didnt show much interest in me as in he was cold... He just hold my hand few times when we were in crowd trying to escape from the crowd. Just to pull me out of the crowd. He also told me I look like I am not enjoying the match which in reality I was so nervous. He thanked me for going there but its been more than a week we havent spoken. This is not weird, because we talk once in a month sometimes more if I text him too.. But since we met finally outside his work, I was expecting to get a bit closer. I dont know if he likes me or just sees me as a friend... I am so confused. And I am always scared to message him because in my mind I keep telling myself that he will never like me in such way as I imagine because: FIRST: he is my eye practitioner, and SECOND i dated his so called friend and i believe he knew about it that time. What are your thoughts? What should i do now? I cant even message him I am scared that he will be cold towards me and I will feel so bad. I dont know how to behave... I dont know what to do... It seems like he will never make a move. PS: I want to see him more outside his work. We will see each other few more years till the problem with my eyes goes away.
smackie9 Posted November 20, 2016 Posted November 20, 2016 You need to breakup your professional relationship with him and find a different eye doctor. Next contact him and ask him out. I feel he went cold because you acted awkward, to him that looked like you were not interested. If you want to catch a man's attention you need to be confident, warm, inviting, and flirty. If you don't act comfortable, and interested, this will kill their interest in you....this says rejection.
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