J dub Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 Alright I have a question for ya'll My ex has my old cell phone he is using because he broke his (and while we were still together I offered up my old one since I wasnt using it), I dont think he deserves to keep it and I want to ask for it back just to be a bitch (its true), but ALSO we have joint ownership in some land (i know, i know, mistake) and the stuff gets mailed to my house (he pays for it all though). Should I start just forwarding it on to his place? I already opened one of the envelopes not thinking about it and I guess I'm just gonna throw it in the mail with a "oops, I opened it by accident" note on it. Or should I let it just come to my house and not worry about it, since he should be the one working out the details (its his money, not mine so I guess I shouldnt care? ) Any suggestions? I am on day 6 of NC
butterfly29 Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 What can I say J Dub. All of this stuff isn't worth it. NC is a NC. what you're trying to do is find ways to get in contact with him and it's normal. Even though you're not planning to be nice. My ex broke up with me in March, and the reason why I am here still not over him is because last month I had to go to his house pick up my stuff. We used to live together. I gave him the nicest valentine's day present which didn't stop him from breaking up with me 2 weeks later. I took it back last time I saw him. The jerk has desided to keep the nicest Christmas present he gave me in return. Well he can keep it. Trust me, I did feel guilty about this and I did think about comming back to return his VD present. And most importantly, I've had friends who volunteered to help me and go to his house to get my stuff for me. I refused, I thought since it's my stuff, it's my responsibility. Now I'm paying for it. I could have easily had someone else do it for me since he neatly put all my stuff into a box ready to go. Sometimes you even have to let him keep it. If you can buy it in the store, believe me your well being is worth more than a few bucks. If it's really expensive and you absolutely have to have it back, ask a trusted friend to do it for you. Forget about the phone. Let him keep it. It's only a phone and believe me, you'll feel bad if you take it back afterwards. Regarding the letters. Just send them back to the recepient with a not at this address sign. Well, wait untill they send you another one so it's not opened. That's what I would do.
Author J dub Posted July 13, 2005 Author Posted July 13, 2005 Youre right, I am bitter and want to be a meanie and take my phone back so hes screwed, but whats the point I guess. I can call the company and have them change the address they send stuff to I think. I'll try that...but in the mean time I still have that one I opened which I am indecisive about.
butterfly29 Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 I'd toss it into the trash can. Don't let him know you opened his mail. Doesn't look good and he may not buy the "by accident" part. When you call them to change the address, tell them to send him another copy of the last bill if you're worried too much. Oh yeah, make sure you ask them to remove your name from the account if it's still there. You don't want any responsibility for it. What would really slam him hard is getting a letter in a mail with the address corrected by post office and a note with your handwriting saying "not at this address". If he bothered to change his address at the post office that is.
Author J dub Posted July 13, 2005 Author Posted July 13, 2005 Originally posted by butterfly29 If he bothered to change his address at the post office that is. No, just with this company does his stuff come to me. Its a membership card with both our names on it. I'd like him to get it just so he has my name plastered all over everything. I'll just call and ask them to resend it to his address...mwahaha
butterfly29 Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 Originally posted by J dub I'd like him to get it just so he has my name plastered all over everything. I'll just call and ask them to resend it to his address...mwahaha Haha you're funny I am just saying, make sure they won't come after you and make you pay for it that's all. Unless of course you want to claim the membership for yourself. I've had a joint credit card and time share with my ex once. Long time ago. It took me years to pay it off and get rid of all the mess. People started sending junk mail on his name to my address after I moved 3 times! Was only anoying me. Believe me, if you owe them money and your name is on the account, people don't care if you two broke up. If they have your address, they CAN come after you.
Author J dub Posted July 13, 2005 Author Posted July 13, 2005 Yeah its a timeshare, I'll call them today and get my sh*t off of there. They have my bank account # -- crap...
totallyconfused Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 do whatever it is you gotta do, but take care of YOUR finances first. try to avoid ANY contact with him whatsoever. you deserve better. period. dont waste your time in contacting him. focus that energy in meeting new people. which is what im trying to do now!
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