totallyconfused Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 DAY 2 - no calling/emailing/iming whatsoever and he called again for the 2nd time (he called yesterday once). but of course, he called while i was at work during a time he knows i never pick when im at work. he left a vm saying - "christina, i need to talk to you. call me back. bye." i am truly relishing this. but i have to just not pick up. not pick up for at least 1 week. gotta be strong. honestly if it werent for this forum, i wouldnt have been so strong on the "not calling". thanks guys. i realized tho that i am taking in the NC for a bad reason - secretly i do want him to call, i do want him to want me back and beg. but i know thats the wrong reason, i should be NC b/c i need to rid him out of my life. this betrayal is too much to ever go back too. oh also...its a possibility hes calling back b/c i was an additional cardholder on one of his credit cards and i was vindictive and spent $600 on it yesterday to blow off some steam. i know how evil of me. it was his own fault when he closed me out and wouldnt talk to me. idk. when people owe you money, you provide good relations with them and call them back. would that truly be my fault? either way he screwed himself over. that big dummy. i gave him an additional cc awhile back - thank gawd i closed that account 2 years ago! that goodness i was selfish then and watched out for myself. its all about me now, NOT we.
J dub Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 screw em I wouldnt call him back, if he called when he KNEW you wouldnt be able to answer then hes just playing more games
Author totallyconfused Posted July 14, 2005 Author Posted July 14, 2005 DAY 3 of NC - he called again - i didnt pick up. this is his voicemail: "christina, i know u dont want to talk me and if thats what you want thats fine but i just need to talk to you before you completely separate yourself. so give me a call back some time later on today." honestly i think that he is just calling now...b/c he feels guilty for what hes done and his consciensce is bothering him b/c he truly didnt have closure between us. we ended it in such a horrible way. he's NOT calling b/c he loves me or wants to get back together. if he did, he'd say just that. your thoughts?? oh and he called this time at a time where its a possibility i might pick up, but even still he knows i dont pick up when im at work. what a jerk!
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Originally posted by totallyconfused oh also...its a possibility hes calling back b/c i was an additional cardholder on one of his credit cards and i was vindictive and spent $600 on it yesterday to blow off some steam. That is just wrong .. you need to move on and stop paying childish games. By charging crap on HIS charge card you are asking for trouble.. Just because you can doesn't mean you should. If you continue with this I see him sueing you for payment.
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Originally posted by totallyconfused that goodness i was selfish then and watched out for myself. You are being selfish and only hurting yourself.. Move on and keep up NC
mixwell Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 No offense but thats really F'ed up what you did by charging $600 on his CC.. Whats wrong with you ? I would slap the shiz outta my ex if she ever did that to me !! Thats soo messed up and greedy of you.. WOW SOME women can be soo vindictive.. haha. Its kind of funny though because it didn't happen to me but i would be soo pist if it were. Anyways just finish out this week and then if he calls maybe answer and see what the heck he wants.. Peace
francis Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 is there anyway you can return the purchases? keep your dignity girl...and walk away with your head held high... i dont blame you for doing that at all, and am not judging you...just dont give him the upper hand... he's a jerk, don't stoop as low as him you need your self respect and dignity right now be strong, say you dont need him and be better than him
Opium Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Originally posted by totallyconfused DAY 3 of NC - he called again - i didnt pick up. this is his voicemail: "christina, i know u dont want to talk me and if thats what you want thats fine but i just need to talk to you before you completely separate yourself. so give me a call back some time later on today." honestly i think that he is just calling now...b/c he feels guilty for what hes done and his consciensce is bothering him b/c he truly didnt have closure between us. we ended it in such a horrible way. he's NOT calling b/c he loves me or wants to get back together. if he did, he'd say just that. your thoughts?? oh and he called this time at a time where its a possibility i might pick up, but even still he knows i dont pick up when im at work. what a jerk! UH, sweetie he probably called to kick your azz and tell you off because you put $600 on his CC. Why do have to continue playing these games. If you want him out of your life for good and theirs no getting back together just move on and stop trying to find ways for HIM to contact you. It's only going to cause him to hate you even more. You need to stop acting like a child and act your age. You're 22 come on you don't need to play these high school games. Change your number, you already "hopefully" erased the things from you blog, and MOVE ON if that's what it's going to take. I understand you're hurt and the pain is unbelievable right now but you'll get through it much better once you stop playing games. I'm not judging you for what you did, just trying to make you realize that you don't have to get EVEN with him by doing those things. You'll get even with him just by ignoring him.
Author totallyconfused Posted July 14, 2005 Author Posted July 14, 2005 in a matter of 5 days - from sweet loving boyfriend - he turned into a monster from lies, to deceit, cheating, conniving. its all been lies and still is. i am still entangled in the web of lies he gave me, still patching up when and where he lied. but im over that. when someone owes you money, you keep good relations with them. was it my fault he didnt pick up when i called him? was it my fault he wouldnt call me back when he said he would? no. right now hes calling NOT b/c of the cc bill. b/c i know the charges havent gone through yet. this cc he gave me, he told me to use and I made payments on it my own of course. right before i spent $600 on i gave him $500 to pay some of it b4 i found he cheated on me. so he can truly go screw himself over b/c that cc is now $4000 in debt. he trusted me so much that he thought i'd never find out about the cheating. he betrayed me in so many ways. i will bet, when he does see his cc bill, hes not gonna say shi*t to me b/c he KNOWS wtf he did. no amount of money will ever erase the shi*t he pulled. so f*ck that about his money. he can afford it anyways. he had my TRUST. but he broke my trust over and over and over. you really think that I should be the one for him to trust now? I DONT THINK SO. that wasnt even THAT vindictive for me to do. theres other worse things i could do but im not, shi*t hes lucky im not going to go over the credit line! and he lucky im not pullin out cash advances with higher interests on them. and yes btw i saved the receipts. honestly im thinking down the road, i can let him worry for a year about that debt, and i will just send some large payments in a year w/no return address. im not thaaat vindictive. but for now, he can go through hell and feel betrayal. is it a game? he seems to be playing so. im halfway there by NC him, but for now, it made me feel a HECK of out alot better im leaving these lies with a new Coach purse. especially since the purse i have now is from him. and yes ive erased things from my blog...geez i did the moment i read the forum. and btw mixwell - greedy of me? hello he PLANNED OUT his cheating on me, he connived his way, squeezing in times with me and some skank. then lied to me. tell me whose greedy now. its not like he went on vacation got drunk and cheated on me. he actually planned this **** out for the past 3 months and then reassured me he wasnt cheating on me. hes not gonna get his cake and eat it too. and no im not gonna continue with this, i just wanted a new purse b/c the one i ahve now reminds me too much of him. and i know he cant sue me b/c my name is on the card. its like a parent giving their child an additional card. hes lucky im even debating on keeping these receipts with tags still on! ----edit--- hmmm i seemed a little angry on that note. well im not but deep down, i dont feel what i did was wrong. call it getting even, but $600 is NOTHIN to betrayal.
Opium Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 You have a lot of anger, I can see. But it doesn't still give you the right to go off and make him feel what you feel, even though he may deserve it. All I'm saying is be the bigger person, the more mature one. Let him realize that he had a good girl by his side that he can trust and who loved him. Not prove him right that you're crazy and thank God he left you. You're not doing any good. And yes you did spend the money but he's not in the whole with those $600 bucks you are, cause eventually you're going to have to pay it. Do whatever it takes to make you feel better. No one can take away your pain but just be careful cause it might bite you in the azz later on.
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Originally posted by totallyconfused he turned into a monster from lies, to deceit, cheating, conniving. So how does that make what your doing right ? You are just as conieving and deceitful as you have professed he is. You are no longer bf - gf you need to stop this and move on ..
Author totallyconfused Posted July 14, 2005 Author Posted July 14, 2005 i am moving on, with a new purse.
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Originally posted by totallyconfused i am moving on, with a new purse. Good luck ..
Opium Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Originally posted by totallyconfused i am moving on, with a new purse. ...And I'm sure that takes all the pain away?
sanne Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Originally posted by totallyconfused i am moving on, with a new purse. the reason it may seem we are being harsh on you is because you are acting like a child at the age of 22. your behavior is inexcusable no matter what the circumstance, stop trying to justify it. what he did was horrible and wrong, but you are only stooping to his level. and at this point I don't even believe your doing NC to move on, I still think your in a vindictive and angry stage and just want to hurt him like he has hurt you. that is not what NC is all about, and you will soon realize that doing NC for the wrong reasons isn't going to get you anywhere either. i suggest going to see some sort of councelor or finding a way to vent your anger and frustration because it is clearly clouding your judgement.
Author totallyconfused Posted July 14, 2005 Author Posted July 14, 2005 there is always going to be pain, with or without the purse. and believe me, i am fighting a battle WITHIN ME right now - move on or keep torturing yourself by checking his or her away messages. but i blocked all them. i deleted all their websites on my history so i dont have access to it. at first i wanted to do the NC thing to make him want to call me. but the battle i am really fighting is NC to rid of him out of my life and moving on. who knows, maybe i will return the stuff. but for now he can worry about that.
Opium Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 The damage is done, don't return the purse, at least enjoy it. Just pay your share of the CC and that's it. You're mind seems to be stuck on "getting him back" for what he did to you. Nothing you do to him will make him realize "oh man I want her back" by moving on and not giving him your 2 cents or a bit of attention would make him think, "damn she's really serious, she's over me". It will make him think more.
lamar_84 Posted July 15, 2005 Posted July 15, 2005 I just remembered that my ex still have a phone in my name! I have to cancel that $*it
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