Author an0nym0us123 Posted November 21, 2016 Author Posted November 21, 2016 the day before she told me that the way it was going she would soon want me all to her self. and shes said plenty of things to express her feelings for me before. And you offered her a FWB deal ! Why oh why? ok ive managed to get her on txt after a seriously groveling txt, i specifically asked her did she want exclusivity at that time and she said she doesnt know. i then added that im 100% hers if she wants me, i seriously cant do more than that.
Author an0nym0us123 Posted November 22, 2016 Author Posted November 22, 2016 ok so ive managed to have some conversation with her via text, she has basically completely withdrawn and not sure what she wants, this from someone who told me she would want me all to herself a couple of days ago. the women giving me hell on here are all wrong, she never wanted exclusivity at any point. i probably txt too much the last couple of days but i do think quite highly of her. im a bit confused tbh....
Author an0nym0us123 Posted November 22, 2016 Author Posted November 22, 2016 can anyone offer some advice, im a bit concerned with this whole situation, i admit i went about the whole thing wrong, but when you have been getting on great with a girl and they say one day they will soon want me all to themselves and the next day when i wanted a bit of exclusivity i am accused of being controlling and making them feel uncomfortable. then completely withdrawing to think what to do. i mean come on if she had asked me for exclusivity was i going to fly off the handle and tell her shes controling?. ive gone silent on her to let her think, but i do feel that i have perhaps been to timid in expressing how i felt she reacted, i have apollogised for the way i went about it and the timing, i think this could have been resolved quickly, maybe she wants to see how i react, or maybe she just likes seeing me squirm, maybe shes been so messed about by previous bfs see cant help it i dont know. she was fantastic to be with and im a bit gutted about the whole thing...
Survivor12 Posted November 23, 2016 Posted November 23, 2016 i asked her what the rules were, she said there were none but if something happened we should tell the other, she also said shes not stopping me from seeing others, she said a week ago that we never said we were exclusive. im so confused right now, there was no bad intent anywhere and im not dating anyone else. First, it shouldn't be about "rules", it should be about mutual feelings. Second, conversations about relationship status should be in person, not on the phone or via text. Third, your timing--right before her going out--was lousy & you do come off sounding controlling. And finally, telling her that your only concern is in regard to sex makes you sound as though that is your primary interest in her. Honestly, I wouldn't blame her for not wanting to talk to you. Good luck explaining yourself if she gives you the chance.
dumbass2 Posted November 23, 2016 Posted November 23, 2016 Stop texting and give it a break and see if she gets back to you at this point. Trying calling this weekend if you haven't heard from her. Don't say too much if you have to leave a message other than you really wish to see her in person to talk. Don't do any more groveling over the phone. You need to chil at this point or you will push her away for good. Getting to talk face to face is what you have to hope for.
LD1990 Posted November 23, 2016 Posted November 23, 2016 LMAO, gotta love the women's responses which basically amount to "you should've read her mind and known what she wanted, APOLOGIZE NOW." Look man, number one you need to stop groveling and being a wuss about this. She won't respect you at all if you do that. Both of you, yes both, sound like you either can't communicate worth a damn or don't know what you want out of this. If she really wanted exclusivity like other posters are saying, I don't think she would've said that you two can do whatever you want as long as you tell each other the next day. I don't know what you were thinking with that no sex nonsense. Be exclusive or don't, don't make it so damn complicated. Controlling is basically a word women throw out there whenever a man annoys them. You can solve that problem by telling her to get the **** over it. Apologizing, groveling, all that does is show her she has you by the balls. You want to make her panties wet? Stand up for yourself and what you want. You tell her you don't want her having sex with other guys. She says that's controlling. You apologize - congratulations, you're like every other nice guy chump that'll do what she wants at the snap of her fingers. You tell her "Call it whatever the hell you want, just keep your legs closed because that ass is mine" - she'll be so turned on it's not even funny. She may act miffed to save face, maybe even argue with you a bit. Just ignore her awhile, she'll be back, and I guarantee she tells you how "you're so different from any other guy" and that she likes how aggressive and dominant you are.
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