norcaldivr Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 Hi all, I have a question mainly for the ladies but guys, feel free to chime in as well. All opinions are welcome. You often hear women talk of being "swept off their feet". I am wondering exactly what that means. Of course it means that some aspect of the man got your interest level so high that you literally melted into his arms. But what exactly was it ? A physical or personality trait ? Something they did ? I am looking for specific things that made you feel this way. And guys, if you have swept a woman off her feet, do you recall what it was ?? I realize this is a difficult question as often it's a matter of chemistry being so great and in those cases it was not one thing but the whole package. But other times it may be one or two specific things. Thanks in advance.
alphamale Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 Originally posted by norcaldivr And guys, if you have swept a woman off her feet, do you recall what it was ?? Yes...a few yrs ago I backed my car down the driveway without realizing my g/f was standing behind it
Merin Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 Chemistry like mad. First 3 weeks we dated he.. 1) Helped me pack and moved everything to my new house 2) Bought me a new leather coat for Christmas because mine had been in my car when it was stolen 3) Came out in the middle of a snow storm to jump start a car I was borrowing during his work hours 4) Came with me to my families house for Christmas knowing NO ONE else there except me This was something I wasn't used to from someone.. he was there for me when I needed him a lot and did so without question or hesitation...
Israfil Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 Originally posted by norcaldivr But what exactly was it ? A physical or personality trait ? Something they did ? I am looking for specific things that made you feel this way. For me, the man in question has to do something that lets me have a piece of his heart – whether it be composing a piece of music, writing a short story, or painting a canvas – something that involves a great deal of effort that was partaken specifically for me, that makes me realize I am important to him, and lets me know that he trusts me enough to show me his soul.
quankanne Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 DH was (and still is) very considerate. If we'd go out to dinner, there'd be no snipey remarks about what I ordered after it was made clear that budget wasn't an issue. He would be generous with whatever he had, whether it's munchies, money or affection. He treated me respectfully: no rubbernecking around other women, no pushing me into doing things I didn't want to do, he would open and close doors. mostly though, it's chemistry. I love his blue eyes, I love his soft Southern drawl and I especially love his kooky sense of humor. How can you not love a man who speaks in a pig voice on command?
JS17 Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 definitely chemistry....feeling that he really wanted me and knowing from the second that we started dating that he didn't want to be without me. he gave me flowers within the first few weeks. he was very affectionate without being too physical. he made me wait for sex................... but in my experience, a charming guy that's capable of sweeping me off my feet will surely sweep another girl off of her feet, and then another, and then another.......get my drift
utwonderwoman Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 Absolutely it would have to be chivalry. And a sincere look of interest in the conversations that the two of you have together. Oh and the soft way he kisses the back of your neck.
Dasani Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 in other words norcaldivr it is a transparent line dividing "sweep her off her feet" and "push over." Its the determination of the girl- which the guy is. You could make a picnic in the park, where everything you can think of is supplied (red & white wine, coke, diet coke, water, flavored water, perrier... salad (fruit or vegetable) chicken or beef dinner.. chocolate strawberries.. or.. well there is no "or".... and while its very nice to see, and very nice to be a part of.. if you dont be the man shes wanting right then.. or the man she didnt know she wanted.. right then. You just put together an extravagent picnic =) and you get a hug good night and POSSIBLY another date. On the other hand.. you do all of the above, including cracking her up all night long... throw in some flirting- AND be a guy she is attracted too/becoming attracted ... you're sweeping her off her feet. because as you look through the above posters' comments, you'll see things like.. open dorrs for her.. and kisses on neck... well you also see things like he gave me money, he took time out of his busy schedul to help me out, he came with me to my parents, he did this.. he did that... and those SAME EXACT THINGS.. could land you in the friend zone. So... be yourself.. but be the better looking, funnier you who is CAPABLE of doing the chivalry... and use it to your advantage.. no reason to blow a ton of money... make the most out of some money... And do it like this.... do it like money doesnt mean much- because (thinking to yourself) you (the date and yourself) are GOING to have a frickin great time no matter how much you spend. Just MHO
ErinErinErin Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale Yes...a few yrs ago I backed my car down the driveway without realizing my g/f was standing behind it Nicely done once again Alpha!
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 I'm an old-fashioned kind of woman, so I enjoy chivalry. Things that sweep me off my feet: Flowers and cards for no specific occasion. A phone call from him because he wanted to hear my voice. Ordering a nice bottle of wine during dinner. Going to a jazz club and slow dancing. Being told how beautiful I am. Holding hands. A massage. Getting a trinket from him that he gave me because he knew I'd like it. Not making me drive when we go out. Keeping his eyes glued to me if we're in a room full of pretty people. Planning romantic interludes....lighting candles, sultry music. Introducing me as his girlfriend before I have to have the "what are we to each other" talk. When he asks for exclusivity. When he asks my opinion. Laughs at my corny jokes.
JS17 Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Originally posted by jen_jen_heartbroken When he asks for exclusivity. yes! good call.
RecordProducer Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 My BF was all over me from the very first day. He was passionate and loving. We had a lot of fun together, he is energetic and has very good manners. I like his original sense of humor. He laughs at my jokes. He smiles a lot. He is self-confident and polite with everyone at any circumstance. He is wonderful with my kids. He shows how much he loves me all the time. The sex with him is great.
Bacardi Silver Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Originally posted by Merin First 3 weeks we dated he.. 1) Helped me pack and moved everything to my new house 2) Bought me a new leather coat for Christmas because mine had been in my car when it was stolen 3) Came out in the middle of a snow storm to jump start a car I was borrowing during his work hours 4) Came with me to my families house for Christmas knowing NO ONE else there except me This was something I wasn't used to from someone.. he was there for me when I needed him a lot and did so without question or hesitation... Sounds like the typical nice guy. Buying you expensive gifts and being there for every little thing. But oh yeah girls love nice guys right?
Merin Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Originally posted by Bacardi Silver Sounds like the typical nice guy. Buying you expensive gifts and being there for every little thing. But oh yeah girls love nice guys right? Sorry What? I should add here that for Christmas while yes he got me a great coat I got him a 165 dollar pair of spy sunglasses, he rides a motorcycle and it's what he wanted... I cook for him, clean up, do his laundry and hang out with his Wee Peeps when he has to work or has errands to run... So yeah, works both ways... Wheres the sarcasm coming from?
Bacardi Silver Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 What I was getting at is that all these things he did for you are things nice guys do. Like I said he was always availabe and he bought you expensive gifts. Girls always say they want a nice guy, but then they walk all over them and use them. Then you girls go back to your jerk-off ex bf and get abused. Then you complain that there is no one right for you. Note: I know not ALL girls are like this but most of them are.
tiki Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 If merin was my girlfriend, I'd buy her TWO leather jackets. And she wouldn't even have to buy me spy glasses (whatever those are...lol).
Israfil Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 Just thought of another one: When he knows exactly how many days and hours there are left before he can see me again.
Merin Posted July 15, 2005 Posted July 15, 2005 Originally posted by Bacardi Silver What I was getting at is that all these things he did for you are things nice guys do. Like I said he was always availabe and he bought you expensive gifts. Girls always say they want a nice guy, but then they walk all over them and use them. Then you girls go back to your jerk-off ex bf and get abused. Then you complain that there is no one right for you. Note: I know not ALL girls are like this but most of them are. Ironic.. Originally posted by tiki If merin was my girlfriend, I'd buy her TWO leather jackets. And she wouldn't even have to buy me spy glasses (whatever those are...lol).
RecordProducer Posted July 15, 2005 Posted July 15, 2005 I think Merin is the nice girl here. She does things for her BFs and they don't seem to appreciate that enough. Bacardi, don't put all women in one basket! Somebody might think that you only had two women in your life, they were both the same type so now you're judging the whole female population on the example of two people. Being self-defensive in advance towards the opposite sex is soooo ugly. Honestly I would never date a guy who is a woman hater. If women have run over him and he got up then he's a hero. But if they managed to destroy him once forever then he is weak and insecure. It's normal to be disappointed soon after a break-up though.
XNemesisX Posted July 15, 2005 Posted July 15, 2005 All the classic romantic crap *Opening doors for me *Paying for my dinners *Telling me how he thinks I am beautiful *Making me feel wanted/loved *Doing sweet things for me *Taking time out of his schedule to do nice things for me *Calling me when he is supposed to/being kind and sweet to me but not TOO much *Acting jealous over other guys *Protective over me *Stands up for me/defends me *Looking at me a lot *Did I mention calling when he is supposed to? *Writing me sweet notes Hmm..that's about it. The 2 guys I fell for the most did these things. Later they became a**holes but in the beginning they most certainly were NOT. P.S. Looks aren't really part of it. Hell, I used to think so. My last boyfriend was extremely attractive but the guy I am in love with now is far from cute. I would say slightly below average at best. He had the charisma though and charisma can make up for lack of attractiveness that is for DAMN sure.
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