Rejectedgirl1 Posted November 20, 2016 Posted November 20, 2016 Hello All! Feeling very lost and lonely here.. To try and make this short I was in a relationship for over a year that has gotten worse over time yet I always had hope that at some point we'll be happy. We both work a lot with different schedules and long days where we only see each other at night when it's almost time to sleep and sometimes I'd work a week of night when we don't see each other at all. Add to the mix other obligations and it makes for a relationship with no quality time and lots of drifting, died down communication. About a month or two ago he also said he wasn't sure how he felt about the relationship and left. He came back a week later so I forgave him as if nothing happened but he just left again two weeks later when we cloud have had a few days off together. This time he also came back about two weeks later. He then left another time.. I think (I'm having a hard time keeping up with all the times he'd left) then came back.. Said he missed me so on so forth.. Another chance came that we could have spent some days off together but he said he forgot he had to go out of town to see his kids from a previous marriage. I was devastated and crying as I thought he was joking as he always leaves whenever we'd have a chance to be together for a bit. Well he left and I.. Searching Facebook as someone who is unsure about her relationship does and came across a picture of him with a woman. I have found another picture a few days earlier but there was 4 people on it so it wasn't as suspiciou. Mind you he never made our relationship Facebook official nor did he post anything with me at all so he appeared single online. I called him and wanted to know who this person was and he said she was just a friend. He then said why do I ask about her when there is others I could be asking about. My jaw dropped but throughout our relationship I had a gut feeling something was up.. He proceeded to tell me that there's many others he's cheated on me with ever since he tought our connection was gone. I asked how many he was unable to tell me.. He just said a lot. I was heartbroken and I still am. This was yesterday. I messaged the other woman on the photo and asked if they were dating. She said not anymore, she was very apologetic and said she didn't know about me. I'm assuming she then contacted him and broke up with him or God knows what happened because within minutes he deleted me off Facebook, ig and snapchat. My heart is broken and I'm not sure why I'm not relieved that I got rid of a cheater and a liar. I feel alone as I moved here a year ago and have no friends to turn to here. It's like he lied about her, then deleted me out of his life like I meant nothin at all.. He's just been playing with my feelings for over a year and I'm devastated..
BluesPower Posted November 21, 2016 Posted November 21, 2016 I understand that you are hurting, but you got played, unfortunately it happens. Try to take this as a learning experience. Over time you will feel better, I promise. Next time if you have a BF that exhibits any of these behaviors, you will know to break up with him. Hopefully you will not get involved with someone like him in the future. You should be happy that you are rid of him, after you heal you will be so much better off. Imagine if you have not found out for another year, how much worse you would feel then... 1
Robin Reese Posted November 21, 2016 Posted November 21, 2016 Hello there. Don't panic and believe it that he is cheating on you. No one expects it that the one whom you are in love with will do this to you but its not your fault at all. That guy sucks. And your life wouldnt be better with him. Its just now that you are feeling this but believe me with time you would totally forget him. Now listen what you must do. First of all stay as happy as you can before him as if what he did din't affect you at all. Secondly start ignoring him. If any of these things don't matter to him then believe me he isn't worth your time. Go out with your friends and talk to people. this certainly helps. Leave things to time as You will be fine my dear...
Author Rejectedgirl1 Posted November 22, 2016 Author Posted November 22, 2016 Thanks for your responses! I'm aware I'll be fine. Sadly I've been through a breakup worse than this after a significantly longer and more meaningful relationship and I know I lived through that I'll def get myself through this one. Just very hurtful to experience how deceiving can a person be for their own benefit. He could have left the first time when he decided to leave and run off to the sunset with the new woman he's met or at least let me be in peace instead of playing me as long as he possibly could. As of now as I said he's deleted me of all social media, I doubt he blocked my number but I'm very strong and def won't be calling him anytime soon. I really have nothing to say to him. Should he get in touch which I won't think he'll do for several weeks if at all, I won't be available. 1
l8estnews Posted November 22, 2016 Posted November 22, 2016 Well, I hope you find the strength to just put this guy behind and charge it to experience. He really sounds like someone not worth the tears for.
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