beachfla Posted November 20, 2016 Posted November 20, 2016 Hi, I'm pretty new to online dating. It's mostly been a positive experience, but once in a while a situation will come up that messes with my head a bit. Last week I went out with a new guy and had a lot of fun. He was very affectionate throughout the date, but didn't kiss me or ask me out a second time. I was a little disappointed since I thought we had some chemistry and I found him intriguing. I was surprised that he texted me the next day. We have the same music in common and he gave me the names of some bands he thought I'd like. We had a mildly flirtatious exchange and it ended with me telling him I was going surfing the following day. Sure enough, I got a good morning text and he told me to have fun at the beach. That was five days ago. Again, I figured he probably got busy or lost interest. We met on an app where I'm sure he's talking and going out with other people, just as I am. Still, this bummed me out as I kind of liked him. Then, this morning I received another text saying "Good morning". I replied back the same and mentioned another band I thought he'd like. He never replied back, just crickets! I figured it was just his weird mixed signals, but then it occurred to me that maybe that message was for someone else? I've had guys accidentally do that before and I've done it myself. I'm curious if anyone of you has ever answered a text not meant for you or sent something to someone on accident? That's the most plausible thing I can think of. I mean, why send that and never respond? Any advice appreciated!
ElizabethIII Posted November 20, 2016 Posted November 20, 2016 Ive sent a wrong message to he wrong friend before so it is possible. Cant see other reasons why he would say good morning and then not keep talking.
Author beachfla Posted November 20, 2016 Author Posted November 20, 2016 I've totally done it as well, but when the other person replied, I at least replied back as not to leave them hanging! thanks, ElizabethIII!
TheTraveler Posted November 20, 2016 Posted November 20, 2016 The text was probably meant for you. You replied back and he's probably like meh He doesn't really have an interest in you. 1
ChatroomHero Posted November 20, 2016 Posted November 20, 2016 Well if anything it says he didn't delete your number. If he sent it to you by mistake, when you replied I would expect he would reply back normally rather than ignore it. He may also be wondering why you have not texted him in 5 days, waiting for you to initiate. He may be sitting there thinking this girl never seemed to want a kiss, gave mixed signals and now never initiates a text, she's not interested. If you were on the fence I would say move on, since you like him, why not initiate another text? Nothing to lose, but maybe it would signal interest to him? Granted he should have replied to your reply, but why not take one more chance ? Some guys suck at dating and communicating and timing when they are not sure if a girl is really interested.
Author beachfla Posted November 20, 2016 Author Posted November 20, 2016 Well if anything it says he didn't delete your number. If he sent it to you by mistake, when you replied I would expect he would reply back normally rather than ignore it. He may also be wondering why you have not texted him in 5 days, waiting for you to initiate. He may be sitting there thinking this girl never seemed to want a kiss, gave mixed signals and now never initiates a text, she's not interested. If you were on the fence I would say move on, since you like him, why not initiate another text? Nothing to lose, but maybe it would signal interest to him? Granted he should have replied to your reply, but why not take one more chance ? Some guys suck at dating and communicating and timing when they are not sure if a girl is really interested. This is good advice, thank you. My online dating experience is the total opposite of meeting someone organically. Maybe it's just the sheer number of options and pace. I'm guilty of losing interest pretty fast, so I expect that happens in return. For me, it's usually before we meet. It's hard to know when to be a little aggressive and when to hold back. I might think my behavior is totally obvious, but someone else might get a different idea. Onward and upward! Thanks, again.
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