johndo1984 Posted November 19, 2016 Posted November 19, 2016 I need some advice if I make the right decision or not. My ex came back from her family vacation. The second day, she broke up w me. We been together for 3 years. After the 5 days, We did talk about the break up of what happen and why. That night we talk, and she ask me if I could support her w some financial situation. i ask her how much she need and for how long. I told her i will help her but just give me some time to think it over , I call her back the next day and ask her how much she need and etc. She said "I gave you a chance yesterday, but you fail to help me. So we are now finish. Yesterday, I gave you a TEST and you fail. I told her, you just gave me one day on the phone to gave you an answer, but NOT let me think it over. 5 days later, I called back as an EX BF, to offer help some help because I feel bad that my ex is struggling w financial, My ex went crazy over the phone and starting yelling at me, ask my WHY i didn't help her when I need help, Why help her now etc.. In the end she said, she doesn't need my money.. So that how our relationship end. Quick Fact We both in our 30ys She has No job, just a college student. Broke up w me than asked me for help Been together for 3 years. I live alone and she w her family. NC for 3 month. Should I have help her? Did I make a wrong decision NOT helping her? Am I at fault? what would you do?
mellybelly Posted November 19, 2016 Posted November 19, 2016 You definitely did the right thing. She broke up with you, why would you lend her money? She doesn't get your help or support if she broke up with you-PERIOD 2
Bromeo Posted November 19, 2016 Posted November 19, 2016 Dewd, no. Just no. I know it's hard, but no. my ex accused me of buying a pair of shoes for myself instead of buying her tires for her car. She's 36. Lol No. 1
Been Posted November 19, 2016 Posted November 19, 2016 Hell yes you did the right thing!She breaks up with you and then asks you to help her out with money??????? You don't get to have your cake and eat it to. And the nerve to put that on someone after you just DUMPED that person. Hey I don't love you anymore but hey I need some help can I have some money??? 2
Author johndo1984 Posted November 20, 2016 Author Posted November 20, 2016 Hell yes you did the right thing!She breaks up with you and then asks you to help her out with money??????? You don't get to have your cake and eat it to. And the nerve to put that on someone after you just DUMPED that person. Hey I don't love you anymore but hey I need some help can I have some money??? I agree, I make more money than her and I could support myself. I could help her if i wanted too, but it just that she broke up w me, i offer later on. But she rejected. Yes, i would help if we are still together. But am I a bad ex bf for NOT helping her? BTW, my ex end the relationship because she under so much stress at that time. The night before we seem happy, next morning she end it out of the blue. She seem always take her stress or problem out on me.
Been Posted November 20, 2016 Posted November 20, 2016 So if your ex had a boyfriend and asked you to help her out with money would you?
Author johndo1984 Posted January 22, 2017 Author Posted January 22, 2017 So if your ex had a boyfriend and asked you to help her out with money would you? Of course not, lol Well, we talk after the breakup and that when thing turn bad. During out talk, she ask me for support , after she broke up with me. I asked her what support she need ( i know it about money), she never mention about money during our talk. But I told her that I will think about it and let her know the next day. But since am in a LDR with her, I told her to move in with me, I support her with everything. Secondly, I told her to ask her family for help, than i will go return her family back the favor. We talk until 2am, I told her i need to go to bed because I got work tomorrow. Next day, she end it.. she told me that she didnt like my answer that I told her to ask her family for help. she said that she were TESTING me to see how i reposed to her question of supporting her. I were extremely angry that she were testing me. I feel sad about my ex situation. After a week, later I offer to help her, she REFUSE to accept the offer. Further more, she got angry and with a nasty attitude over the phone with me. she yelling at me , why i didn't help her before but why now. Sad thing is that she broke up with me on the week of my bday, she cancel her flight to come and see me. On my bday she didn't say happy bday. So what I did I do wrong?
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