Itta Posted November 19, 2016 Posted November 19, 2016 Hello, I used to be friends with one guy who is my classmate but he told me that he likes me more than a friend I've told him that I want just to be friends with him.Since then he completely stopped talking to me, is acting like I'm invisible, gives me short answers..I feel sad because he was only one friend I had in my class, other classmates feel like totally strangers for me, I don't know anything about them, they don't know anything about me, they have friends and spend time with them. Now only that guy who used to be my friend and left friendless. I still feel attached to him because I know him more than anyone else in my class, I could always trust him, I still want to be with him. How to get over it?
spiderowl Posted November 19, 2016 Posted November 19, 2016 I am sorry to hear it, he clearly wanted you to be his girlfriend not just friend. I know it seems hard but he is just trying to protect himself. It is hard when you feel strongly for someone and they are not interested in you in that way. Try to understand he is hurt and just protecting himself.
Shining One Posted November 19, 2016 Posted November 19, 2016 How to get over it? You should find someone who wants to be your friend. He should find someone who wants to be his girlfriend. Some relationships (including friendships) just aren't meant to be.
Shanex Posted November 19, 2016 Posted November 19, 2016 You friendzoned him, when he wanted more. So he steps back now. Sorry, he doesn't want to be friends only with you.
Author Itta Posted November 19, 2016 Author Posted November 19, 2016 I am sorry to hear it, he clearly wanted you to be his girlfriend not just friend. I know it seems hard but he is just trying to protect himself. It is hard when you feel strongly for someone and they are not interested in you in that way. Try to understand he is hurt and just protecting himself. It's got pretty awkward now, now we feel uncomfortable around each other, he gives me negative vibe which makes me feel uncomfortable...
elaine567 Posted November 19, 2016 Posted November 19, 2016 It's got pretty awkward now, now we feel uncomfortable around each other, he gives me negative vibe which makes me feel uncomfortable... He is sore. He had no intentions of being your friend he wanted to be your bf or he just wanted to have sex with you. No doubt he hid this for a long time and so once you rejected him and his "dream" is gone, he is upset and now I guess he is getting angry.
Shining One Posted November 19, 2016 Posted November 19, 2016 He is sore. He had no intentions of being your friend he wanted to be your bf or he just wanted to have sex with you. No doubt he hid this for a long time and so once you rejected him and his "dream" is gone, he is upset and now I guess he is getting angry.There's a lot of assumptions here. How do you know he wanted a relationship or sex from the start? I've been friends with women and had romantic feelings develop over time. How do you know he is angry and not just hurt? When people are hurt, it's logical to create distance from the source of the hurt.
elaine567 Posted November 19, 2016 Posted November 19, 2016 There's a lot of assumptions here. How do you know he wanted a relationship or sex from the start? I've been friends with women and had romantic feelings develop over time. How do you know he is angry and not just hurt? When people are hurt, it's logical to create distance from the source of the hurt. Because people who have lost something, tend to go through the stages of bereavement. He is giving out negative vibes towards the OP at the moment so I guess he is going through the anger phase.
Author Itta Posted November 19, 2016 Author Posted November 19, 2016 Because people who have lost something, tend to go through the stages of bereavement. He is giving out negative vibes towards the OP at the moment so I guess he is going through the anger phase. It can be.He used to talk in irritable voice with me and was grumpy around me several times, now he talks to me in normal voice and isn't being grumpy but never laughs or smiles when I do, he is always in serious mood.Also I saw him several times really sad around me.As I see he never hides his emotions from me but never tells me what's wrong, I even tried to asked him why is he in so serious mood around me and never smiles or laughs he said "I'm always like that"
Ostepop Posted November 20, 2016 Posted November 20, 2016 Why don't you first ask yourself and think about how you would feel if you were deep in love with some guy, and he said he wasn't interested. I'm willing to bet you'd be devastated and would stay away from him, just as this "friend" of yours now does. Not saying you did anything wrong here, if you don't like him that way then that's that. But the problem is not hard to understand. 1
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