JS17 Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 I posted this in dating, maybe it's a second chances thing.... usually when i break up with someone, or they break up with me, it's over and i'm rarely friends with an ex. recently i dated this guy for a couple of months (we're both 27) but I just moved too fast emotionally and physically and I broke up with him because he was doing things like ignoring my calls and sending mixed messages. my friends and family all think he is a jerk based on what i've told them of our relationship but i still don't know if i did the right thing. after disappointing me this weekend, either because i expected too much or because he's a jerk (don't know), he called me last night and we caught up as friends and he was sending me mixed signals, like subtly asking me about my current dating situation. it's so difficult to know what to do when it's your situation so I guess I'm just looking for advice or at least to rant. I like the person but not some of his behavior and do i give it time, stay friends, ask to get back together, never talk to him again??? who even knows if he's interested.
JBeth7 Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 PErsonally I went through about the same thing...because I do not know this guy I cannot be sure that I am right, but get over him and don't talk to him again.
Author JS17 Posted July 14, 2005 Author Posted July 14, 2005 why do you say that? what was your experience?
unsafe Posted July 15, 2005 Posted July 15, 2005 I think you should follow your heart..and if you get hurt well at least you know right? you aren't wondering well what could have been? I am kinda in that place. I have been friends with this guy for 2 years we have been dating for about 2 months. he is kinda flaky. I hate it! But he was suppose to come see me on the fourth he called to confirm that morning..but at 5 in the afternoon on the 4th he called and left me a message saying that he has a few beers and didn't think it was a good idea to come out and see me since the cops were out. I was pissed. I was totally expecting him I asked him 2 weeks in advance. Come on! he asked for me to call him back but I never did. Then he called again on Wednesday. And I never called him back. Come on he stood me up. I think he isn't the sharpest tool in the shed. But he contacted me Wednesday a week later..after I didn't call him back and he wanted to know what happened. I told him I was pissed about the 4th of July he said I had every right to be. I told him that it didn't seem like he was that interested and I wont play games. He said he missed me and wanted to make it up to me. I didn't know...he said well when can I see you again. I said I wasn't sure..he said he can't show me he is sorry if he can't see me. Words will only go so far. So I was like maybe this guy does like me? I just don't know? So I agreed to see him tonight. But I am so scared I don't want to get hurt again. And I keep thinking I deserve better then that. Anyway back to you. YOu have to decide whats best for you. Is it better for you to get over it and move on. Or do you need to know is he that dear to you. I dated a guy kinda like that he would always ask if I met any new boys? I always took as he was interested in me. But the truth was he loved me he was just to scared to let me in. Now that we are just friends..he isn't scared to tell me how he feels he has nothing to lose. But he did lose me. But we are great friends now. I got over the whole he and I being together and I just enjoy his friendship. So you really have to just follow your heart and decide if its worth the risk. Good luck..
Author JS17 Posted July 15, 2005 Author Posted July 15, 2005 this guy is still jerking me around...very hot and cold...if i had any smarts i would just walk away....cause it's the best thing to do right?
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