whichwayisup Posted July 16, 2005 Posted July 16, 2005 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t56954/ Read this thread by No Foolin' in the coping section. I think this will help you, or atleast be able to read what others have gone through too, and apply it into your situation. Start posting in the coping section, you'll get more help there I think. Take it easy.
Author spitfire01111 Posted July 16, 2005 Author Posted July 16, 2005 yesterday she called late and explained why she hasnt been calling and apologised and she told me how she felt bad for not calling me i feel somewhat better about her but still want her back - i feel that if she wanted a boyfriend i would still be the one this probably isnt it but its been extremely hot here and maybe shes just cranky i hope thats it though and we get together later
whichwayisup Posted July 16, 2005 Posted July 16, 2005 Spit, you're not understanding what anybody is saying, my posts included. You don't really know what is in her head. Or how she feels. But what I can tell you is, and I'm sorry to say this, but she doesn't want you as a boyfriend anymore. Her actions (not her words) have shown this time and time again. Right now she is 'telling' you sorry and she feels bad...Now you watch for her actions. If she continues to NOT call you back or go out with you - There is your answer.
Author spitfire01111 Posted July 17, 2005 Author Posted July 17, 2005 i can see now that as of this moment she still doesnt want me as a bf- but i think the reason she didnt call me is that i get upset extremely easily now that were broken up about the smallest things and i think she doesnt want to see me upset - im gonna try to leave her alone and kinda not call her for a long time and then all of a sudden ill call her and tell her how much i miss her and i think she will miss me if i dont talk to her for awhile, and i think that its possible i would be able to go out with her by september if my idea works out
griftymcgriff Posted July 17, 2005 Posted July 17, 2005 Or find another girl perhaps? Because you dont know if she will want to come back. You just have to try and move on, you can still have a thing for her, but just dont try make her come back to you.
whichwayisup Posted July 17, 2005 Posted July 17, 2005 Originally posted by spitfire01111 i can see now that as of this moment she still doesnt want me as a bf- but i think the reason she didnt call me is that i get upset extremely easily now that were broken up about the smallest things and i think she doesnt want to see me upset - im gonna try to leave her alone and kinda not call her for a long time and then all of a sudden ill call her and tell her how much i miss her and i think she will miss me if i dont talk to her for awhile, and i think that its possible i would be able to go out with her by september if my idea works out You better do a site search on NO CONTACT. This is what you need to do, for YOU. No contact = no calls, no emails, IM's, seeing her, etc. This is the ONLY way you can get over her and get rid of your feelings. If you don't do this, in another few months your heart will STILL be hurting. Don't be her friend, she doesn't need you as a friend. You don't need her as a friend and personally, I think you can't handle it as it hurts you too much. Move on, read no foolin's thread, I've given you the link. Really read about in the coping section and see what others have gone through and how to handle the grief and pain... By September, she could be with somebody else. Don't waste your time on her, she's moved on, she wants you to do the same. Remember, if she wanted to be with you now she would be! Hang in there, keep posting.
Author spitfire01111 Posted August 23, 2005 Author Posted August 23, 2005 i havent posted in awhile because i just fixed my internet it wasnt working well anyways things are starting to get better like today she called me three times and one time and she was like i just wanted to call you to tell you i want to always be your best friend that made me so happy because it showed she was still somewhat interested in meand at least wants to still be in touch - however i am actually not going to let her know for awhile that i still love her,i feel part of the reason that we broke up was that i called her too much and we saw each other too often we really did i can understand if she was tired of it we saw each other everyday probably like 40 hours a week but we havent seen each other lately but she told me today she wants to see me tomorrow i feel she just wanted a break and i still have a chance with her -i am going to have another girl come over though just so she thinks i dont like her and she will find out she came over and maybe she will get jealous and possibly give me even more attention and maybe she will want to see me a couple of times a week and ill be even nicer to her but i honestly think i have like a 30 % chance of going out with her in the near future!!
Author spitfire01111 Posted August 24, 2005 Author Posted August 24, 2005 oops sorry i didnt think i posted this because my computer restarted and so i had to type everything again i didnt purposely make 2 of these ignore this thread please respond to the other though
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