i don't know what to do about this dude

[JS17]

usually when i break up with someone, or they break up with me, it's over and i'm rarely friends with an ex. recently i dated this guy for a couple of months (we're both 27) but I just moved too fast emotionally and physically and I broke up with him because he was doing things like ignoring my calls and sending mixed messages. my friends and family all think he is a jerk based on what i've told them of our relationship but i still don't know if i did the right thing. after disappointing me this weekend, either because i expected too much or because he's a jerk (don't know), he called me last night and we caught up as friends and he was sending me mixed signals, like subtly asking me about my current dating situation. it's so difficult to know what to do when it's your situation so I guess I'm just looking for advice or at least to rant. I like the person but not some of his behavior and do i give it time, stay friends, ask to get back together, never talk to him again??? who even knows if he's interested.

[A Fly onThe Wall]

There is nothing wrong with slowing down and taking the time to get to know him better and to figure out if some of his behavior is something that is a deal breaker.

 

If you really like him .. Follow your heart ... For the time being

[Skeered]

Personally I think if you still have feelings for him and he is still talkin to you I think that you should maybe take a couple steps back and kinda start over...maybe you jumped in with both feet and he wasn't to that point yet. Take some deep breaths and revisit this relationship at friends and maybe go out on simple dates like movies and things...I think if you restart you might see something that you didn't see before (good or bad).

 

If you try this talk with him and tell him lets start over and see where this goes but I need you to be honest with me..no mixed signals...maybe he didn't know he was sending mixed signals, maybe he doesn't know what he was feeling? Who knows...but communication is the key to a strong relationship..if you want to try it again just start over...