Can't take his own medicine

[tolve]

I really like this guy who I have become good friends with. We do lunch, coffee, even dinner a lot. But I figured that he definitely only likes me as a friend as he often mentions his other dates, people he's dating and has even rushed off after dinner with me to meet someone else who is hooking up with that night But during all of this time the body language has strongly suggested that he likes me, and this is not me saying this it is friends too.

 

So basicaly I moved on and started online dating but I have not spoked to him about my dates. So a couple of weeks ago he brings up this 'totaly hot babe' who he is taking out the next day as he getting up to leave from our coffee friend date. I then said 'Oh cool I went on a date with a cool guy last night'. My friend's smile just got wiped off his face and he sat back down, and started casual asking me questions about this guy - did I like him, where did we go on a date, what he does for a living blah blah. Anyway I see this online guy for a third date and the day after started talking about him with a girl friend. This guy was sitting at the table and was just quiet. When I walked up to get a coffee he said to my friend 'do you know, every guy called A (guy I'm dating's name) is a total douchbag have you noticed?' When I came back he did not speak to me for the whole day. Just grunted and nodded whenever I tried - so unlike him!

 

So two days ago we were sitting down having a coffee and my phone was on the table and a gay male friend sent me a what'sapp 'yo sexy when am I seeing you again? Cannot wait to see you I'm thinking about you right now'. This gay friend and me just send each other messages like this. My male friend just burst out, 'I don't want to see messages like that. I can't help it that I read it. You've got the phone right under my nose' I put my phone away and he says, 'so what you doing tonight? Seeing that guy what's his name? Oh hang on he must be someone else because that's not online guys's name.' Clearly keeping track of mu dates. Ever since then he's acting so weird. He looked so upset all afternoon and evening

 

I'm guessing this is jealousy on some level, but why tell me about dates if your gong to be jealous the moment I do the same. Is is a case of can't take your own medicine?

 

Oh and FYI I am not going to see online guy again and I could have clarified that the message was from a friend who was kidding around. but I'm kind of enjoying riling him and giving him a taste f his own medicine but I don't want to push him away either.

Edited November 18, 2016 by tolve

[JewelD]

How old are the two of you? The whole situation seems Petty and immature and I imagine if you entered into a relationship with this so-called friend, it would be a very Petty and immature relationship as well.

[Buddhist]

I'm guessing this is jealousy on some level, but why tell me about dates if your gong to be jealous the moment I do the same. Is is a case of can't take your own medicine?

 

Quite possibly. Some people think it's a good strategy to try and pique someone's interest by pretending to, or otherwise oversharing details of their personal life etc. There's a myth out there that a woman will be more attracted to a man who's otherwise unavailable. I've rarely seen it work that way but pet theories die hard.

 

Now that you've called his bluff you know where he stands. Up to you what you do with it now. It may still be the case that he doesn't want a relationship with you but at the same time likes to think you are sitting by pining away for him. Yeah okay....Next time he brings up his hot babes you can also tell him it's too much information and he can keep it to himself. What a precious little snowflake he appears to be.

[travelbug1996]

Yea even if he is a little jealous it doesn't mean he wants you. If he did, he would have made a move by now.

 

Does he know you like him romantically??