lf9022 Posted November 18, 2016 Posted November 18, 2016 A little bit of brief history: I went through a horrible relationship which ended in me getting cheated on & that made me go through depression, drugs, alcohol, all while dealing with college & responsibilities. I got a call from my girlfriend at the time & she said, "I don't like you anymore" & hung up. I never got an answer on why or how. She changed her number & everything. Till this day, 4 years later, I still don't know. As a result, that ruined my confidence because she was the 2nd who cheated on me & it made me think, "there is something wrong with me" Anyways, I decided to give dating a chance again. I attend a gym where I train, small mom & pops type of gym. I met this girl there! Most amazing, beautiful girl, I have ever laid eyes on! To cut the story short, I took the time to know her at the gym till I finally decided to ask her out. We went out a few times, texted all night, etc, then I began hinting that, well, I like you! & I told her! But, she just said, she wasn't in the right state of mind to date which I respected. A few days later, I see her waiting for one of my friends that she met through me at the gym. One day I was talking to him & she immediately jumped in & introduced herself to him. The next day, they leave together & been doing so for the past week. I can connect the dots & knew what was going on. Point is, they like each other & I feel like she used me to meet my friend which again makes me wonder, "what the f is wrong with me"? I think I'm just stupid as hell or maybe it's just my luck? Anyways, It burns the hell out of me to see them together. She still randomly texts me saying hi & sending me snapchats of her out eating, partying, etc which I know for a fact she is with him. After this, I come across the screw it I don't give a f, but inside it hurts like a b! Advice? Please? Thank you in advance. 1
Buddhist Posted November 18, 2016 Posted November 18, 2016 Don't know what to tell you except, this sucks. Yes it does. I don't think it was right of her to go out on dates with you when she wasn't interested. But that's just me. :oI think we've all had this happen though, doesn't make it any less ****ty I know. Sorry. 2
MarkIVSteel Posted November 18, 2016 Posted November 18, 2016 We went out a few times, texted all night, etc, then I began hinting that, well, I like you! & I told her! But, she just said, she wasn't in the right state of mind to date which I respected. Stop constantly texting. Over texting kills attraction. Stop telling women you like them. SHOW NOT TELL. Simply going out with her, making her feel wanted and making out with her will tell her that you like her not words. 1
Sweetfish Posted November 18, 2016 Posted November 18, 2016 I see one problem.. Start caring only about you and only you. If a girl bails it's her lost... she owes you nothing.. you owe her nothing 3
Popsicle Posted November 18, 2016 Posted November 18, 2016 Please keep your head up,sweetheart. It really just sounds like your picker might be a little off and you're picking not-so-nice girls. In time you will get it and will be happy. Please try to stay positive and good luck. PS- it's ok to take breaks/time off during dating. We all need that.
gorf Posted November 18, 2016 Posted November 18, 2016 Some times its the luck of the draw bro. Not sure why the first one cheated either, but of all the reasons, it usually in the end surrounds the fact that the woman was emotionally cheaked out, and not mature enough to tell you she lost interest. So cheated to scare you off. Its cowardly way of handling things Could be just a streak of flaky girls. But hang in there and keep your chin up. No matter what happens, you can say "you know, I am good enough. Im worth it. Im worth more. And one day Ill meet someone who takes the time to see that."
Author lf9022 Posted November 26, 2016 Author Posted November 26, 2016 Thanks alot, guys! It truly means tons! Guess I messed up by easily trusting somebody again. It's not really about being rejected because, well, that's life; it's more about the feeling of being used & falling for somebody. One thing this helped me learn was, don't easily trust people & don't have high hopes. Seeing them together everyday burns like freaken hell, but I guess it's making me a stronger individual, I guess!
thecrucible Posted November 27, 2016 Posted November 27, 2016 It sucks that she wasn't honest with you and didn't tell you the reason why it couldn't go any further. She could have said she didn't feel a spark or didn't see you in that way. What did you do together after you asked her out? Hopefully she wasn't too naive to realise that it was a date that you were going on. I think you should see one of the most positive things being that you had the confidence to pursue it so you are clearly capable of going after what you want. I hope you won't see her in the gym too often to make it awkward for you but you never know, there may another lovely lady in the gym for you to talk to.
joseb Posted November 28, 2016 Posted November 28, 2016 "We went out a few times, texted all night, etc, then I began hinting that, well, I like you! & I told her! " You went out a few times? Like on dates? Did you kiss her at least? If you are taking her on dates she should know you like her. You don't say it. Texting all night -not a good idea. Many a decent chance has been blown by that (though it does work for some occasionally, in general, bad idea) So yeah it sucks, but at least you asked her out.
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