My girlfriend of 1.5 years doesn't mind transitioning into an open relationship.

[elaine567]

If we're going to jump all over her for answering that way, maybe the focus should be on the OP for suggesting it in the first place, even though he says it was a joke. Personally I don't think it's a very funny one.

 

I agree, it's not a funny one, as it introduced insecurity into the equation on both sides, is my guess.

Exploring sexuality with others is something that should only brought up in all seriousness, as sexual attraction and emotional connection can be fragile entities and are easily shattered.

Edited November 18, 2016 by elaine567
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[Redhead14]

Last week I brought it up randomly and said we should have an open relationship as a joke. I like teasing her. She said okay why not. I said I was kidding but she still said she didn't mind it. I brushed it off since it didn't seem serious.

 

Then today it was randomly brought up in conversation again because it occurred in a TV show we watch together. She said "yeah we should have an open relationship". She was smiling while saying it too. That's when our argument started about whether she cares or not about being in one or not.

 

You guys are long distance . . . I'd bet she's been seeing others anyway so you just made it guilt free. I find it odd that a "girlfriend" of 1.5 years would so easily jump at that suggestion even jokingly . . .

[morrowrd]

I would be uneasy being in a relationship with a woman who "didn't give a sh** if we were monogamous or not. It cheapens the entire idea of being exclusive and would make me feel as if she could take it or leave it.

 

What are you going to do?

[Gr8fuln2020]

...as if she could take it or leave it.

 

This is what she is saying. Eh, whatever... i'll find someone else anyway...

[kvolm2016]

So after all this conversation, maybe what you realize is that instead of going to others for figuring out the status of your relationship, you just have to go to the person you are involved with and ask where things stand. Honesty is pretty important in any relationship and you need to be able to tell her that her comment about your relationship changing from monogamous to open, really surprised and bothered you and that you feel like you need to know where the relationship currently stands. But, the problem with honest conversations is that you have to be prepared for what her honest response might be. If she truly is interested in an open relationship, then that falls back on you to decide if you are okay with this or if that is a deal-breaker. And you may have to end the relationship if it's not going the direction you want it to. Make sense???