Thenicegirl Posted November 18, 2016 Posted November 18, 2016 Last week I (29f) talked to my bf (35m) about a purchase I'm going to make ($500). I asked him to come with me to shop around locally before deciding if I'd rather buy it online this weekend. This morning I found out that he's bought this for me for Christmas. We've only been exclusive for 4 months so I think it's a bit much and hadn't planned on spending more than $150 on him. Plus he doesn't know that I know he's bought this for me already. Should I tell him it's too much? Pretend as if I know nothing and stick with my original gift plan for him? Spend more money (I can afford to) so that he's not spending considerably more than I am? I don't want him to feel bad about his generosity and we do see the possibility of a future together. No matter what next year I'm going to talk to him about putting a limit on how much we spend on gifts!
ElizabethIII Posted November 18, 2016 Posted November 18, 2016 If he wants to buy it and he can afford it, accpet it graciously. Dont feel you have to match it. Next time an event rolls around like a birthday say he was far too generous last time and he isnt to buy you much this time. 6
Els Posted November 18, 2016 Posted November 18, 2016 If he already bought it, accept it graciously as the previous poster said. Nothing feels worse than buying a gift for someone and them turning it into a negative thing. Don't feel that you have to match it, not money-wise anyway. A $150 gift from you is fine. You could cook a nice dinner for him or something if you want to, additionally.
Gr8fuln2020 Posted November 18, 2016 Posted November 18, 2016 I agree with others. Your bf has already bought it, so accept it, be gracious and, again, do not feel that you need to match or feel any more obligated b/c of this purchase. Remember, one of the reasons he's doing this is b/c he really likes you. Someone mentioned this, but can he afford to do this? Whatever you do, in the future, do not feel you have to reciprocate in kind if you are not willing or can afford to. I agree. It is too soon to make such an expensive purchase for someone you've just met...really. 4-months....
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