Delicaterose00 Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 So I talked to Mike yesterday..... at first our first conversation was fine, only lasted a few minutes... then I tried calling him later like he said too and he dindt answer. I text him and told him to just admit there was someone else... he text back... Hate the player not the game.... So I called him after that and said why couldnt you just tell me the truth? Ya we are broken up but you could have told me.. he is like.. Im not seeing anyone, I just said that to be an a**h***....Im like what!!! He is like... Im sick of you accusing me of ****.... Im like.. whatever well if your going to be a dick there is no reaosn to stay in contact.... he is like... K.....( cause he told me the other day he wanted to stay in contact) So I said ok.. bye and hung up...... What happend to him!!!!!!!!!!! How does he go from being sweet one day to super ass the next..................... I hate him and I love him.........How stupid am I? I wrote him a good bye email.. a real one I said I was sticking to my guns about..... so we will see what happens fromm there.. prolly nothing..... Im still sad this morning..... I love him so much... ............I tried to eat, but I could only put down a few tablespoons of cereal....3 bites maybe.. Im still loosing weight like crazy and its been 2 months since the break up.. I just dont know how to help myself anymore....
J dub Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 You need to let him miss you (ie NC) because otherwise he is taking advantage of you just sticking around. He's being an a$$ because he can. Generally people act the way you allow them to, same with how they treat you.
Merin Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 You need to stop setting yourself up for crap like this. First thing to understand when you accuse then you've put someone on the defense.. IME when people feel they need to defend themselves it's gonna get ugly. Secondly the 2 of you are broken up right? So finding the answer to IF he is with someone else IMO really isn't something you want to know about for several reasons.. 1) Still keeping an interest in if he is with someone else (while I suppose is normal curiosity) it isn't healthy because it means on many levels you haven't accepted the relationship between the 2 of you is over, and until you can accept that you can't move on. 2) Learning your EX is with someone else only gives you more to dwell on.. you don't need that. IF you continue to call him (even if he said it was okay for you to) text him, or email him is STILL giving him all the control over how you're going to feel... you were upset when he didn't answer his phone, you were upset at the reply you got back from your text and my guess is you will be upset at whatever response you get from the email you sent him... JDub is right.. best thing to do at this point is leave him alone.. no more calls, texts, emails... when he calls (and he will) let your VM pick it up... Hang in there
totallyconfused Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 merin ive read some of the posts here and i really like your advice. its very very logical. do you think you could take a look at my crappy situation and your say on that?? i would be very greatful...
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