Kaiten Posted November 17, 2016 Posted November 17, 2016 This girl and I really hit it off. She seemed to really enjoy seeing me—to the point where I, and everyone else in our circle, was actually surprised. She never misses a chance to talk to me, which I enjoy. So we connected on social media, and then started messaging like every day, having good correspondence. I happened to look at her profile and she was using those vague emojis that I thought alluded to being in a relationship. But none of her many pictures include a guy of any kind. Just to be sure though, I ask her what the emojis mean, and she responds with "what do you mean?". I thought that was weird, so I go and check so I can copy and paste them and they are gone. Something seemed odd about how abruptly it disappeared. I tell her we should get lunch together sometime and she agrees. So I get around to asking her for her number after a couple weeks of talking and she says "oh my gosh, yes, you never asked me for my number!" Then gives it freely. Then, later, from someone who's like thrice removed from this story, I hear that she has a boyfriend already. I thought it was weird because no one knows that I have her number, but based on how she acts when I'm around, everyone who sees us near each other thinks that she likes me. Confused, I figure the first best thing to do is get clarity on her relationship status. Turns out she does have one, and she did not think that I liked her at all. Truthfully, I was undecided, but she came out of nowhere and we hit it off, so I was cool with seeing where it went. I asked another girl what that particular alignment of emojis usually meant, and without hesitation she told me they meant the girl has a boyfriend. Later, I told the girl I was interested in that I wouldn't have asked had I known she had a boyfriend, and that that was the reason I was asking what those symbols meant. She said "Oh, that's what you were referring to?" and I thought to myself, how could she not have known that ...? Even then, she didn't answer the question. I just let it drop. At that point, something didn't sit well with me about her.
Gloomy Posted November 17, 2016 Posted November 17, 2016 Do you feel that she was hiding her relationship status from you? Honestly, I would just back away. She told you she is seeing someone, I would just cut my losses and move on. It's better to find out earlier than to get invested and get hurt.
Author Kaiten Posted November 17, 2016 Author Posted November 17, 2016 Do you feel that she was hiding her relationship status from you? Honestly, I would just back away. She told you she is seeing someone, I would just cut my losses and move on. It's better to find out earlier than to get invested and get hurt. I honestly can't say for sure. I do find it weird that both times I brought it up, she has not given an answer. And come to think of it, when I asked her what her status meant, she definitely should have known that I was talking about the one she had erased very shortly prior to me asking that. Usually girls at some point mention they have a boyfriend. Over the weeks she hasn't said a word about anything of the sort, nor has she acted like she has one.
TheFinalWord Posted November 17, 2016 Posted November 17, 2016 Just my opinion, instead of doing all this investigation, just ask her out and if she says yes, she probably does not have a boy friend.
Author Kaiten Posted November 17, 2016 Author Posted November 17, 2016 I wish that I could ask her out, because we enjoy each other so much, but for me dishonesty is a dealbreaker, and this strikes me as unnecessary dishonesty. This probably leads to some serious mind-game type **** later on
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