Grey40 Posted November 17, 2016 Posted November 17, 2016 Got girls number, asked her out, said busy all week probably can do something next week. Ok cool. I say that's fine. Now, so I text her at all or just reinitate after a week and ask for a date?
diegonieves Posted November 17, 2016 Posted November 17, 2016 I am not good at dating, but i think you can wait sometime, if you call her all the time, she may hate you
travelbug1996 Posted November 17, 2016 Posted November 17, 2016 Text her every couple days. Good morning etc
gorf Posted November 17, 2016 Posted November 17, 2016 (edited) Got girls number, asked her out, said busy all week probably can do something next week. Ok cool. I say that's fine. Now, so I text her at all or just reinitate after a week and ask for a date? How do you know she isn't seeing someone and though you were just trying to make a friend? Maybe she thought it was a friendly thing from her perspective, but then figured you were asking her out, and she is already taken so she is putting you off. Have you considered that? Some girls, taken or not wanting to date you, will exchange numbers and text a little.. only cause they felt pressured and it avoided an awkward moment to decline. Its easier to get a number, send a few messages or whatever, and leave it at that. Some girls have a hard time saying no with this, but its not so hard to put off a date after they get the number. If you follow. How old are the two of you anyway? Edited November 17, 2016 by gorf
Author Grey40 Posted November 17, 2016 Author Posted November 17, 2016 How do you know she isn't seeing someone and though you were just trying to make a friend? Maybe she thought it was a friendly thing from her perspective, but then figured you were asking her out, and she is already taken so she is putting you off. Have you considered that? Some girls, taken or not wanting to date you, will exchange numbers and text a little.. only cause they felt pressured and it avoided an awkward moment to decline. Its easier to get a number, send a few messages or whatever, and leave it at that. Some girls have a hard time saying no with this, but its not so hard to put off a date after they get the number. If you follow. How old are the two of you anyway? Both in mid twenties. She's 25 and I'm 27. One of my older male friends is friends with her and he told me she doesn't have a boyfriend. Could she currently be seeing someone else? Yeah for sure, but I've checked out her social media pages and don't see any signs of it. But you're right, always a possibility. When we exchanged numbers, certainly didn't seem just 'friendly' there was a lot of touching going on, and everyone around me, after she left, was telling me "it was on, and to make it happen". So if other people around me are noticing the signs, isn't that a pretty good indicator? The only way to know for sure I guess is to just keep chipping away. Stay in contact, try to hang out and see if she pushes back at all.
Michelle ma Belle Posted November 17, 2016 Posted November 17, 2016 Speaking as a woman, connect with her between now and when you go on your date if only to keep up the level interest. People's attention spans are insanely short anymore that to assume anything and wait too long leaves you vulnerable for someone else to swoop in and steal your thunder. Just my two cents. 1
JewelD Posted November 17, 2016 Posted November 17, 2016 If I wanted to go out with a guy and I was busy for a whole week, I would at least suggest a specific day the following week. I wouldn't leave him hanging and say "Oh im busy this week, probably next week". You can still talk to her if you want, but I'd imagine if she was truly interested, she will let you know what day she's free. I wouldn't ask her again. 1
Larryville Posted November 17, 2016 Posted November 17, 2016 Text her every couple days. Good morning etc And if you text does she mirror your communication pattern. That is tell you her interest.
Author Grey40 Posted November 17, 2016 Author Posted November 17, 2016 If I wanted to go out with a guy and I was busy for a whole week, I would at least suggest a specific day the following week. I wouldn't leave him hanging and say "Oh im busy this week, probably next week". You can still talk to her if you want, but I'd imagine if she was truly interested, she will let you know what day she's free. I wouldn't ask her again. Yeah this is what I'm more inclined to believe, but she is a nurse in training as well as works as a waitress, so it also be that she just doesn't have an idea when she would be free next week, because her schedule changes/is hectic. It's also thanksgiving week, which really complicates things. I texted her on Monday and just texted her again today (Thursday) to let her know I'm still here/interested. But yeah, if the next time I'm trying to hang out she comes up with some kind of hesitation, I know my answer. Definitely the one thing I've learned is that it's pretty easy to meet up if the girl is actually interested or attracted. It shouldn't be that difficult, and if it is, it's probably not going to happen. I think that's pretty good advice, and I've found that to be true. But I've also heard stories of girl giving off the vibe that they aren't interested, to come out of the blue and suddenly want to hang out.
JewelD Posted November 17, 2016 Posted November 17, 2016 Yeah this is what I'm more inclined to believe, but she is a nurse in training as well as works as a waitress, so it also be that she just doesn't have an idea when she would be free next week, because her schedule changes/is hectic. It's also thanksgiving week, which really complicates things. I texted her on Monday and just texted her again today (Thursday) to let her know I'm still here/interested. But yeah, if the next time I'm trying to hang out she comes up with some kind of hesitation, I know my answer. Definitely the one thing I've learned is that it's pretty easy to meet up if the girl is actually interested or attracted. It shouldn't be that difficult, and if it is, it's probably not going to happen. I think that's pretty good advice, and I've found that to be true. But I've also heard stories of girl giving off the vibe that they aren't interested, to come out of the blue and suddenly want to hang out. If she's that busy that she has no idea when she is going to be free, then there's no point in trying to date her because you'll never see each other. As busy as people are, we always know when we have an offday or free time coming up because we're looking forward to it throughout the week. As far as women giving off the vibe that they're not interested and then suddenly showing interest later, it's usually not genuine. It means something else fell through or they got bored and decided, "why the hell not". With very few exceptions, I think people are fairly consistent from the beginning if they're interested in you.
Miss Peach Posted November 17, 2016 Posted November 17, 2016 Did you meet on OLD? I get in that situation where I am flooded with guys from OLD and I need to put some guys on reserve until I wade through the group I'm already talking with. It's nothing personal. I just don't have time to date that many guys so I need to get some knocked out of the running or screen more.
TheTraveler Posted November 17, 2016 Posted November 17, 2016 Got girls number, asked her out, said busy all week probably can do something next week. Ok cool. I say that's fine. Now, so I text her at all or just reinitate after a week and ask for a date? You're not a priority in her life right now. Maybe, on down the road. I wouldn't do anything.
Patrice Posted November 17, 2016 Posted November 17, 2016 I can't focus on 20 guys, would like to chat with 2-3 at a time, perhaps have a date and winnow the field that way. It's overwhelming to get all those messages, then the ensuing hurt feelings because you didn't respond. I am also finding that facebook has become more of a dating site. Double whammy. I would send a short text once, and ask when she thinks she is available, so that you can plan something nice.
Author Grey40 Posted November 17, 2016 Author Posted November 17, 2016 Great points from everyone. Like I said, texted her about 3 hours ago, haven't heard back yet, could be in an exam for all I know. But combine "busy with exams" with taking forever to answer back = not good. However when she has responded back before, she did respond and mirror me. She's not giving me short responses or one word answers or anything. But she might just be that type of person I did not meet her OLD this was in person through a mutual friend. So it's a little less random than just a profile that she has to go by. But she's very attractive, so she's probably juggling a couple different guys + all her nursing schoolwork + regular job so I understand I'm probably not a priority. I was very shocked and happy to her her number at all, so it's more wishful thinking on my part, sucks if she's lost interest.
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