NopeNah Posted November 17, 2016 Posted November 17, 2016 My ex had called me a couple of days ago over a pending court case I had. My dumbass answered it and let her know the supposed plea agreement. Then on the day of court, she was blowing my phone up asking how it went,ect..that was On monday..I spoke with her and told her the plea went through.."All good,thanks for asking!"..Now she won't stop texting/calling.. I expect my phone to ring in 17 minutes,actually! I feel bad ignoring her but, neither of us can move on with constant contact..I've told her this several times since Aug..Blocking her calls seems rude coming from the dumper(to me). She's blocked on all social media,ect..I do care/love her..We just don't "work". Guess I'll just send it to VM and then delete them without listening. /rant/
Miss Clavel Posted November 17, 2016 Posted November 17, 2016 you are doing the right thing. it's over. let it stay over. p.s. there are many things and many people in this world that i love but i do not see them or talk to them at all. distance.
Superchicken Posted November 19, 2016 Posted November 19, 2016 Im not sure why you broke up, but the fact that she's in constant contact with you is obvious. But why not keep it simple, and ask her not to text you so often. Kind of cruel on her (If you divorced nicely). Some people just need contact with others to survive. Is it really that awful to respond every now and then. She is a living person, and has feelings, albeit annoying at times. Ted.
Author NopeNah Posted November 19, 2016 Author Posted November 19, 2016 Im not sure why you broke up, but the fact that she's in constant contact with you is obvious. But why not keep it simple, and ask her not to text you so often. Kind of cruel on her (If you divorced nicely). Some people just need contact with others to survive. Is it really that awful to respond every now and then. She is a living person, and has feelings, albeit annoying at times. Ted. Actually I didn't hear from her for a few days and then she called me last night..My phone was on silent,as I was in the movies and I had changed my voicemail on thurs so, she sends a text asking "are you ok?".. Once I saw these I responded by text that I'm fine..She calls..I answer..Just random talk about mondaine day to day stuff I would talk to a "friend" about..Basically..She was lonely on a fri night. I do not wish to be her friend. She refuses to see or seek help for her flaws(strong BPD traits) that made me pull the plug. It's pointless for me to remain in contact with someone whom I'm not "over" yet and I'm not planning on 'walking her through' to the next guy.
Superchicken Posted November 21, 2016 Posted November 21, 2016 Yeah, its tough.. Then just ask her to move on with her life, as you have moved on with yours, and it now doesn't involve her anymore. Tough decisions.. Good luck. Ted.
ainoviere Posted December 14, 2016 Posted December 14, 2016 Praying4Daylight, may I ask what is it about her that you don't think it will work? Is it because she's too demanding for you? Do you think if would have worked or you have reached out to her after the breakup if she been able to maintain NC since the original breakup?
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