totallyconfused Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 So...its been 1 day of not calling him. He called me today and left me 5 IMs, stuff that wasnt very nice. Well OK heres the story I have a blog online and thats where I wrote about how I felt about everything - http://www.xanga.com/princess_limmy. I ripped both him and her apart. On my blog i said that i take it back, i dont want to be friends anymore. As soon as I got home, they both checked my profile and read it. he then imed me and was like hmmmm...so no friends huh? Before reading this, that stupid girl had lyrics on her profile saying - nobody cares about your tears, tears of a clown blah blah blah. But as soon as she read it, she changed her profile. Putting love lyrics on it and putting this little aim blurb convo he had with him - stuff that him and her saying stupid stuff - like your my boy and awww your my girl. it was so completely immature for BOTH of them. it was a complete chumpshot at me, ya know? i couldnt believe it. I know it was kinda immature for me to write about it online, but i have always blown off steam on my blog, and its not like I asked them to read it. i didnt reply or call him back. i dont plan to. honestly i did have ulterior motives knowing that they'd both read it - b/c i provided them with a view that has to make them wonder about each other's motives or intentions. it was like a rude awakening for them, thats why she complained to him then imed me like "dont insult her you dont know her". stupid b**tch like of course i dont know her, shes the girl youve been hiding and cheating on with me! i didnt really insult her, it was more of him i insulted. was it wrong for me to put it out there online exposing him to my friends what a cheat he was? i felt so much better writing that all down. i know she read most of my recent posts - i have a tracker on it. so i know shes reading it. OMG then u know what on that b*tch's website - with all her naked pics on it, she has this one pic where shes posing with his shirt on kinda naked. OMG i wish i hadnt seen that. it still hurts, but i cant let him have my pain b/c i know hes not worth it. what a monster. you think you know someone for 4 years, never knowing what a monster they can be. ugh...its so immature but i just gotta be strong, control my thoughts and move on. mind you this so called man is 26. is it me or is he acting like he's 18 again like his new 18 y/o gf? DAY 1 passed, onto DAY 2
Author totallyconfused Posted July 13, 2005 Author Posted July 13, 2005 please help! i feel so alone on this...i dont want to call him...cant not worth it...ughhhhhh grieving at its best
Opium Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 know it was kinda immature for me to write about it online, but i have always blown off steam on my blog, and its not like I asked them to read it. i didnt reply or call him back. You knew once you wrote in your blog they would read it. Your intentions were to blow off some steam but you knw that they were eventually going to read it so don't play that game of "you didn't ask them to read it". If someone wrote things about you that way how would you respond? By saying and doing things to push the other person buttons. Would't you? Of course it's called human nature. What you need to do is give it NO ATTENTION
Opium Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 know it was kinda immature for me to write about it online, but i have always blown off steam on my blog, and its not like I asked them to read it. i didnt reply or call him back. You knew once you wrote in your blog they would read it. Your intentions were to blow off some steam but you knew that they were eventually going to read it so don't play that game of "you didn't ask them to read it". If someone wrote things about you that way how would you respond? By saying and doing things to push the other person buttons. Would't you? Of course it's called human nature. What you need to do is give it NO ATTENTION and go back to your blog and erase whatever it is you wrote about them. Don't give them the satisfaction of getting under your skin. How old are you guys?? Cause you'r not acting like 26 year olds, learn to control your anger and they will feed off you weakness if you show it to them.
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 Originally posted by Opium You knew once you wrote in your blog they would read it. Not only that you also used Big Bold Colored Letters so they didn't miss it when they read it.. You knew.. It was a pot shot you took. Admit it !
sanne Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 i'm sorry but how old are you? this all reeks of highschool drama if you ask me. what you need to do for yourself is to stop trying to get him to feel sorry for you or to feel bad about what he has done. he will come to that realization on his own if you leave him alone. i pestered my ex like you are doing, and it only made her angrier and more upset. what you need to do is to stop giving him any attention whatsoever. that means no blogs about him, block him from IM, don't read their away messages, don't even go on AIM if you ask me. And don't call or try and contact him at all.
Author totallyconfused Posted July 13, 2005 Author Posted July 13, 2005 ay i dont understand. its like how is this my fault all of a sudden? it was a chumpshot what they both did to me. yes i might have been immature to do that, but i have always written in my blog. idk i honestly dont think that it was bad of me to do, b/c after writing that, its like its all out. im not ashamed of it. idk i see both sides, but i felt it was the right thing to do. and i DO PLAN on not writing about it anymore. not bring it up, not talk to him, whatnot. but hellooooooo im on DAY 2! it still hurts. btw im 22. and i do realize that I DID WANT THEM TO READ IT - "honestly i did have ulterior motives knowing that they'd both read it - b/c i provided them with a view that has to make them wonder about each other's motives or intentions. " IDK. am i really that wrong to have done that? does that take me back a step further?
westernxer Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 That dude must be money... wish my exes kept a blog about me for all to read.
Author totallyconfused Posted July 13, 2005 Author Posted July 13, 2005 what page ? its still up there.
westernxer Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 My bad... the period at the end of the link screwed me up.
Author totallyconfused Posted July 13, 2005 Author Posted July 13, 2005 westernxer - what do u mean by that dude must be money? do i really need to take that page down? i guess its starting to make sense...urghhh am i totally on the wrong path with having that up? ive had that blog for 4 years...
Author totallyconfused Posted July 13, 2005 Author Posted July 13, 2005 westernxer - what do u mean by that dude must be money? do i really need to take that page down? i guess its starting to make sense...urghhh am i totally on the wrong path with having that up? ive had that blog for 4 years...im a complete techie nerd.
westernxer Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 Originally posted by totallyconfused westernxer - what do u mean by that dude must be money? Well, you're letting him know how much he rocked your world, and it makes his new girlfriend want him even more, because now she knows he's hot property. I know you're going through a hard time, but don't give him this satisfaction of knowing he's a bad ass! Get back at him by getting on with your life. Of course it takes time, but please hang in there.
Opium Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 I personally can't see it, don't know why? So I can't tell you if it's really bad or a rage of venting issues. I'm not saying your the bad one and he's the good one or vice versa all I'm saying is that at your age you shouldn't bother with those rants for everyone to know you were hurt. You need to be the bigger person and let her have him, who wants a cheater by their side. She wants sloppy seconds let her have it. You're hurting and of course it's going to take a while for you to forget this whole thing and move on but you have to. You're only making her feel better knowing she got to you. Just write about other things, not about them. Be mature and think with you head not your heart.
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 Originally posted by westernxer Well, you're letting him know how much he rocked your world, and it makes his new girlfriend want him even more, because now she knows he's hot property. True
Author totallyconfused Posted July 13, 2005 Author Posted July 13, 2005 thank you. you guys are right. i took them down and made them private. now...does that still take me a step back further? ughhh
Opium Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 Originally posted by totallyconfused thank you. you guys are right. i took them down and made them private. now...does that still take me a step back further? ughhh No the point of making mistakes is to learn from them. You learned now you move on to make yourself feel better and move on with your life.
westernxer Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 No, you're fine. It's okay to vent, as long as you don't let him know about it. That way he won't have the upper hand.
Author totallyconfused Posted July 13, 2005 Author Posted July 13, 2005 thank you opium and westernx! i was going to private message westernx to ask you on your opinion of my crappy situation b/c i saw some of the advice you gave other people. your very blunt, probably hurtful, but at least to the point. b/c if you say it in a tactful way, its not gonna get past the grieving person the right way i guess. i just gotta be strong. i did leave up the big blue letters of "I take it back. I dont want to be friends anymore". cant i leave that one up? i know he still reads my blog, i think he always will. then i again hes not the same person. at least i have a tracker on both of them so i do know if they check it. ha i know im childish. hopefully pretty soon i'll get over it. guys just hate to be called out on when they know their wrong. esp when you expose the son of b**tch its just so sad, i have to think of him as a different person. it was like the person i loved, that friend, he died. move on with life, b/c times a wastin
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 Originally posted by totallyconfused guys just hate to be called out on when they know their wrong. esp when you expose the son of b**tch The problem with calling someone out is you are the only one in the end that looks bad to the other parties. His behavior is easily explained away, All he has to say is your vindictive.. and he will
Merin Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 You had asked me on another thread to look at yours here, but the link you had is no longer around.. and LOL I have zero idea what happend between you and your BF Westy is a smart Guy though, so I'm sure he's offered you outstanding insight
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