Awkw3rd Posted November 16, 2016 Posted November 16, 2016 Things started when I joined school a week late. So I go to my classes, and i realize this beautiful girl is in 4 of my classes. She had black hair and glasses, and I think that's why I liked her and still do after almost 3 months; she is so different. Anyway, my school has this advanced class program for college and I tried to join because im naturally a smart kid before I even met this girl. Well, problem is that I was accepted 2 weeks later after I had reconsidered and I had gotten rather close to her. This "Counselor" pulled me out of class and switched me out of all my classes before I could say no. Now, I have no classes with her, I can't get out of this program, and it is like she completely forgot I existed. I'm sure that she used to like me. What do i do? I still see her everyday but she had earbuds in and talks to her friends or plays on her phone. After 2 and a half months, I can't get her out of my head!
Scarlett.O'hara Posted November 16, 2016 Posted November 16, 2016 You have three options.. 1) Approach her and tell her you want to keep in touch. Earbuds and talking to friends are no excuse not to initiate. 2) Find her on social media and send her a message. I'm sure she won't be that hard to find. 3) Do nothing and continue feeling sorry for yourself. She already knows you so it won't be that weird to talk to her. Women like a guy with some initiative. If you want something, go get it! 1
Author Awkw3rd Posted November 23, 2016 Author Posted November 23, 2016 When do I walk up to her? What do I say? I am not very good with words, and its not like I'm the most handsome guy in the world, so I'm really shy about this. Are you a girl? If so, what would you love to hear? What should I do if she has a boyfriend? Because I sometimes see her with the same guy a lot.
Scarlett.O'hara Posted November 24, 2016 Posted November 24, 2016 If you are concerned that she already has a boyfriend and don't want to risk rejection then check social media. It is usually pretty obvious if people around your age are dating someone. Yes, I'm female. I have always responded positively to a guy I know approaching me to say, “Hi, how you are you doing?” or in your case you could ask how her classes are going, offer to help out etc.. Showing an interest in her is a good start. If you are afraid to approach her in person, then send her a message online. If you were becoming close in class, like you said, then you already have an opportunity, but that window will close, so stop delaying it! Check to see if she dating anyone through social media. If she is, personally I wouldn't bother, unless you are ok with just being friends. If she doesn't appear to be dating someone, send her a friendly message to see how she is doing. It doesn't need to be full on romance in the beginning, work up to it. If she is receptive and responds positively, arrange to catch up in person or something. Just do something about it soon. 1
thecrucible Posted November 25, 2016 Posted November 25, 2016 Check to see if she dating anyone through social media. If she is, personally I wouldn't bother, unless you are ok with just being friends. If she doesn't appear to be dating someone, send her a friendly message to see how she is doing. It doesn't need to be full on romance in the beginning, work up to it. If she is receptive and responds positively, arrange to catch up in person or something. Just do something about it soon. I like this. Sending her a social media message sounds great. You already know her from school so it's not going to come across as too forward or creepy. Just be laid back and see how she is getting on. You have plenty of common ground to start off with to get the conversation going.
Author Awkw3rd Posted November 26, 2016 Author Posted November 26, 2016 I like the idea too, but to be honest, I can't remember her name. I am new to this school do I don't know many people at all. And I am extremely shy. Can you tell me exactly what to say and how? I will screw it up without something like a script. I need like a when or where as well. I truly don't know if I can do this alone. Thank you all for the help.
Author Awkw3rd Posted November 28, 2016 Author Posted November 28, 2016 Hello? I have school tomorrow and would love to ask her out by I need help with my last reply! Thank you!
preraph Posted November 28, 2016 Posted November 28, 2016 If she seems to be avoiding you, then she is not interested and may have picked up on it that you are and be avoiding. But if you think there's a chance you just need to talk to her. Go up and ask what's going on in that class and tell her you miss it and just make conversation and see how she acts.
Author Awkw3rd Posted November 28, 2016 Author Posted November 28, 2016 Yes, but she was interested. That's why I am having having trouble. I know I can jumpstart it again but I need to know when and exactly what to say or else I am too afraid of screwing it up. Should I find her after school, between classes, etc.? And what exactly do I say? Thank you.
justsaysure Posted November 28, 2016 Posted November 28, 2016 Catch her in the hallway, tell her you think she's really cool and miss her... and that you would love to stay friends. Get her number
Grey40 Posted November 28, 2016 Posted November 28, 2016 (edited) You still see her in person, just try and man up and go up to her. Tap her on the shoulder so she takes off her earbuds, or block her walking path so she knows you want to talk. If she won't give you the time to interact, she's no longer interested. What signs has she given you to show that she was interested in more than just friends? Maybe she's not interested. You are in high school? If so, that's very young, girls and guys pretty much have no idea what they want or how to behave around the opposite sex. And, people sometimes lose interest very quickly, especially in a school setting when there's so many other options all the time. She could have met another guy in class and is talking to him now. It happens. Next time you are in this scenario, don't wait so long to get her number or contact info. How are you even close with this girl if you can't even remember her name? You must not be as close as you think. You should know her name and have her number by now. Maybe she thought you weren't interested because you didn't ask for her number. Edited November 28, 2016 by Grey40
Author Awkw3rd Posted November 28, 2016 Author Posted November 28, 2016 I forgot her name because we last talked 3 months ago but I never got her number because I am way too shy.
Scarlett.O'hara Posted November 29, 2016 Posted November 29, 2016 Yes, but she was interested. That's why I am having having trouble. I know I can jumpstart it again but I need to know when and exactly what to say or else I am too afraid of screwing it up. Should I find her after school, between classes, etc.? And what exactly do I say? Thank you. You won't screw it up. Just be yourself! If you see her, walk up to her and say, "Hey, do you have time for coffee?" Take it from there. If you want a date, you have to find a way to battle through your shyness. No one else can do it for you.
Author Awkw3rd Posted November 29, 2016 Author Posted November 29, 2016 Coffee? We are both freshmen! We can't drive to a coffee shop! And I doubt even she would want to ask her parents to drive her to a date. I need something way less sophisticated. If you were a freshman who has not "noticed" me for months, what would i say to make you want to give me your number? Like, should I tap you on the shoulder abs say something like "I am sorry, but I think you look stunning. Can I get your number?" Or is that too straightforward? God, this is killing me!
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