girlfriend has left me "to help me". i need her back. help please!

[gekuk]

my girlfriend left me yesterday. we had been going out for nearly a year. we both go to the same high school.

 

i love her still

 

when i was with her, other people said that i was too protective of her and i thought that too. i didnt let her see much of her friends. i had left my friends too so that i could concentrate more on her. i got to a point where i hurt her when she made me sad and she was scared of me when she did something wrong. she said she wasnt scared of me but was scared of making me sad.

 

a while ago one of the teachers had a word with my girlfriend and it changed her and i got upset about it. when we kissed she stopped me and said she didnt deserve it then she said that she didnt want to be controled.

 

i thought about it for a while and then a few days later i had let her do more things

 

then yesterday i had a breakdown and i lost my mind. i went out of class and the teacher followed me and all i said to him was that i wanted to talk to my girlfriend but they didnt let me.

 

they sent me home and i went to see a doctor about my head.

 

then i got home and i was happy

 

then i texted my girlfriend to come online and talk to me on MSN and then she came on but didnt talk much. then she sent me an email saying it was over.

 

she said it was for the best and that i should get help and that breaking up is the only thing that she could do.

 

my parents were shouting at me, saying that she got me into trouble all of the time.

 

i hardly ever tell them anything personal so they didnt realy have a clue.

 

when my girlfriend had sent the email i went very pathetic and i cried and i was sick many times and i didnt sleep at all last night.

 

i sent her an email saying i am going to die... i know i shouldnt...

 

what should i do now?

[Zaira]

Snap yourself out of it. You're acting CRAZY!!!!!!!!!!!

 

You need to find happiness within yourself BEFORE you even start looking for a relationship. I think you need to see a counsellor before you do something even more stupid than what you've already done

[gekuk]

i went to see a counsellor yesterday

 

she just said i should give up

 

i dont want to give up...

[Zaira]

Originally posted by gekuk

i went to see a counsellor yesterday

 

she just said i should give up

 

i dont want to give up...

 

Give up. She doesn't want you back. The more you push, the more she will hate you. You have done irrational things.

 

You need to take a step back and look at your behaviour. It's not good. You need to get yourself sorted out emotionally.

 

Was this a school counsellor? I meant go to a pyschologist or someone similar who can help you through your emotions etc.

[gekuk]

i went to a school counsellor

 

in the email she said that she didnt want to end us and the only reason that she was ending us is because she wanted to help me

[Zaira]

From what you have said I can see why she said it. You were smothering her. It looks like you don't have any interests of your own. You gave up your friends for her. You made her your life. Of course she'd be scared of making you sad, you had basically made her your whole life.

 

Show her that you can be independent, that you can be happy without her, that you can have other friends, that you do enjoy life without her. Then you may be attractive to her again.

 

If you really care about her, then you will leave her alone (at least for awhile) and get yourself together. Start acting rationally, get your thoughts and emotions together and find your OWN happiness.

 

Only then will you have a chance of having a decent relationship with anyone, including your family, teachers etc.

[gekuk]

i tried being going with my friends before because my girlfriend asked me to

 

i ended up having a realy big argument over a game and i havent heard from them since

[Zaira]

Originally posted by gekuk

i tried being going with my friends before because my girlfriend asked me to

 

i ended up having a realy big argument over a game and i havent heard from them since

 

Well now is the time to start making amends.

[gekuk]

i talked to her and she says shes too hurt to talk...

 

ive been sick a few times... i cant cope...

[Ian Poland]

Hey man, my girlfriend left me today... Remember , you are not alone... I'm getting crazy too and I don't know what to do with myself. I think I'm going to kill her, it seems to me she's been a slut... ****, I'm desperate...