Eternal_Loneliness Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 People I don't know if this is the right place to ask but I need some help picking up this woman who I work with. First off some history about me. I'm completely useless with women, I'am deeply ashamed to admit I have only ever had 1 girlfriend in my life (Im 23) I was always made to feel guilty about having an interest in the opposite sex by my family and it has really messed me up. Im a good looking guy (It has taken me up until a few months ago for me to be able to say this about myself, im no showoff) I have started working part time (whilst taking some exams) and have met this woman. She's attractive, funny and a fair few years older than me.... I never click with people but with her I have (Why is my life so goddamn unfair?!?) I also sit directly next to her But unfortunately She has been with this guy for about 2 months and to be honest he doesn't sound too bad (although I wish he would get hit by a bus lol, yeh i know that sounds bad), although lately he won't go out with her very often. They had a row last friday but she is giving him one last chance, she kept hinting to me she was going to split up with him that day.... (argh im useless) This is where it get's interesting! Im crap at reading signs, really bad in fact but she has been doing the following. 1.,Glancing at me often, staring at me even ?? 2.,Said that I was good looking 3.,Asks me what im upto all the time (admittedly I sometimes ask her what shes upto 1st) 4.,Makes funny voices voices at me (what the hells that about) 5.,Said "oh there was that thing I have on dvd the other night on tv, If I had your number I would have texted you) 6.,Rubs herself on me If I ask her to come over and help me with somthing (if you get my drift ) 7., Speaks to me none stop about many different thing's 8., Makes funny faces at me (sometimes, and what the hells up with that!?) 9., Talks about her friends and family 10., Stares right into my eyes and sort of assess me 12., Mirrors my actions quite often 13., Bruskes hair when looking at me, taps feet etc 14., Last week when she had to come next to me I swear she was about to flip out when speaking, she spoke that fast! and was very nevcous?! 15., I could add more but I think ur probably getting bored by now ) This has been going on for a good month now, and today I think I have missed my chance, as she was talking about dating people who work together. "I think its a bad idea having a relationship with someone you work with" she said. But there are a couple at work who are married and very happy together so I may point this out to her in a VERY subtle way. Funny thing is although she said this she's still doing the above to me?!?! So i'm now totally god damn confused, thought I had finally after 23 goddamn years of walking this godforsaken planet that I had finally met someone. And I know I don't have the balls to ask her out, I need to give her subtle hints because, well Im too damned shy. Someone please help me with this, I'm going out of my mind right now and I have to goto work in 4 hours and I don't know what to do. One Very Confused Person
RecordProducer Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 It really sounds like she likes you a lot. Just ask her to have a cup of coffee together after work then tell her about a movie you want to see and ask her to join you. Or ask her to escort you at a friend's party or something. You can date her a few times before you try to kiss her. You will be more sure about her feelings then. Don't be afraid! Even if she says NO you have nothing to lose. If she rejects you, it's obviously not because she doesn't love you. What she said about relationship was probably just to provoke you to see what you're going to say. Good luck and keep us informed.
_Saffy_ Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 she has a boyfriend already, and isnt available, flirt with her, let her no that you are interested, sure, but dont ask her out while she is involved with someone else thats just bad form.
Eternal_Loneliness Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 Yeah I know when she said that about relationships I just sort of went "well i guess"... Argh im a fool a damn fool. I must redeem myself today, somehow! Maybe point out hey are those 2 together.. yeh.. well they've done it somehow... what do you mean... well, there working together and have a relationship!. Worth a shot you reckon? I really want to ask her out but won't do it while she's in the relationship as I know how I'd feel. Thing is if I leave it too long I know what is going to happen a) Im going to expole (literally) b) It will fizzle out but then again she did say that she would ease of her relationship a bit after the arguement with him and if she meets someone else she would take it from there.. I really hope what she said was a test. Im gonna in a roundabout way try to give her my number this week and hope she will call me!
norcaldivr Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 You sound a lot like me at age 23. A while back I started a thread that pertains a lot to your personality situation. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t63853/ As far as how to handle your current situation with your friend, all I can offer is two possibly conflicting pieces of advice: a) Follow your heart and conscience and b) All's fair in love, war, and parking
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