Naglorian Posted November 15, 2016 Posted November 15, 2016 Hello, 25M here.. So a couple of months ago i met this girl, we dated a couple of times and everything went perfect. After 3 dates she took me home and i met her parents and they all like me and she was always smiling and happy.. Now in 4 months that we are together, i almost met the entire family (cousins, grandparents, friends, ..), put it on facebook and saw her a couple of times a week. Now suddenly she felt i was texting and pushing her to much and we were going too fast, altho it was all her idea of meeting the family, putting it on facebook,.. She said she is not happy with herself AT THE MOMENT, but still cares for me and doesnt wanna hurt me, she IS kinda busy with school at the moment so i kinda believe she doesnt have much time for me but i wonder if she is just making up excuses to break up, or really needs some time.. I suggested to not send her for a week but its killing on the inside, and i have lost 3kg's already, it's a couple of days left now but i want to know if i have to prepare for the worst.. Also, when she said those things about moving too fast and i held her against me, she started crying and still kissed me so i am so confused.. 1
cucumber95 Posted November 15, 2016 Posted November 15, 2016 Give her time, don't dwell or be needy. Maybe she is not sure about that relationship? and needs to think, but let her think about it, don't push her into deciding now, etc.. 1
Author Naglorian Posted November 15, 2016 Author Posted November 15, 2016 Yea i guess, it just feels so confusing and hard.. Sometimes i think its just an excuse for breaking up but then she wouldn't cry right? She still has our photo's up so i guess it might end well.. but i dont know 1
Been Posted November 15, 2016 Posted November 15, 2016 Yes. She is the one that speeded things up and Now all the sudden is having second thoughts. Tell her you understand and you wish her the best and then go NC. And when she does contact you-and she will- you lay the law down. Tell what you expect and what you won't tolerate. Do not BEG her to stay right now. It will only push her away. 2
Frozensushi Posted November 16, 2016 Posted November 16, 2016 Just tell her "Alright, when you figure out what you want, give me a call", then walk away and never look back. If she does eventually contact you, play it cool. Don't bring up the relationship, just ask how she is doing and ask her out for coffee or something. If she isn't sure, or doesn't know, tell her "That's cool, well I have things to do, I gotta go, we'll catch up later." If she doesn't respond to that, then drop her for good, because at that point she's just wasting your time and only fishing for an ego boost. If someone wants to be with you, they don't play games, they will make their intentions crystal clear. Games are for children. 2
GustavoWoltmann Posted November 16, 2016 Posted November 16, 2016 Hi, I'm Gustavo Woltmann. So what I think is she is still confused. Did you said anything to her to make her feel that way? did you discuss something about marriage or having kids like that. I agree that you should give her some time. Btw just want to know how old is she? Maybe she wants to focus on her studies first. Just let her do what he wants and support her. Everything will be just fine. Hope my advice will help. __ publishers of Panama here I go!
Author Naglorian Posted November 16, 2016 Author Posted November 16, 2016 Thanks for helping, but yesterday evening i got a text and we talked a bit.. She said shes not ready for a relationship because she doesnt have time but we can still see eachother once in a while and thingd could get better later... so now its over.. I still think she just changed her mind about us because everything went super great until last week, or she likes someone else.. i wish she would straigth up tell if we could ever get back together or not, but i guess waiting would just eat me up inside.. Here i am driving around all night not sleeping, eating or drinking pfff She is 21 btw
Author Naglorian Posted November 16, 2016 Author Posted November 16, 2016 So.. to add more confusion.. Today i told her i will leave her alone and let her focus on what she thinks is best. She didnt believe my words at first. 30 minutes later i get another message telling me she doesnt know if she is taking the right decision and she still misses me.. As much as i still love her, i feel like shes just very confused herself or playing with me. I think it's best to move on and if she really wants me back i guess i'll hear from her? If by that time its not too late for her
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