ElizabethIII Posted November 14, 2016 Posted November 14, 2016 I am very, very open about sex. Discuss fantasies, explore, try new things. Last year for his birthday I booked a suite for the weekend as a surpise. I boughthink a bags of toys. I mean everything I could toys hinkle of. Straps, whips, tinglers, edibles... i went over the top. He, he is very unwilling to share his fantasies, more so just goes along with mine. I enjoy sex very much and am very open about it but that sounds like my idea of hell. It is just a gimic, plain and simple the best sex for a lot of people of being together, skin to skin without toys, etc. I would also have felt very pressured to go along with it as my birthday treat was being paid for, etc. But what I really would have preferred is just a nice weekend with my partner. It doesnt sound like he is up for it. 1
Author sissyf26 Posted November 14, 2016 Author Posted November 14, 2016 Yes and no, he is very complicated. I think at first he tried to always give the right answer. I prefer the truth (I guess I will say in "most" situations. He ins thing better, but this was put of left field.
Author sissyf26 Posted November 14, 2016 Author Posted November 14, 2016 I enjoy sex very much and am very open about it but that sounds like my idea of hell. It is just a gimic, plain and simple the best sex for a lot of people of being together, skin to skin without toys, etc. I would also have felt very pressured to go along with it as my birthday treat was being paid for, etc. But what I really would have preferred is just a nice weekend with my partner. It doesnt sound like he is up for it. It is not toys all the time. We have everyday sex, romantic sex, kinkie sex, slow sensual sex, makeup sex. We really do have a great sex life. I just always have to take the lead I guess I should also cover that we go away very often, every couple months. So we have plenty of the romantic getaways too.
olivetree Posted November 14, 2016 Posted November 14, 2016 Why don't you let you him take the lead for once? If you're carrying your sex life, what other aspects of your relationship are you carrying? When you're so giving, even at the sake of your own well-being, you end up being unappreciated. When you were so hurt at his answer, you held yourself together and continued to have sex that I can only guess was not at all enjoyable. When you are bothered, it's okay to be true to yourself and stop what you are doing.
frus69 Posted November 14, 2016 Posted November 14, 2016 It is not toys all the time. We have everyday sex, romantic sex, kinkie sex, slow sensual sex, makeup sex. We really do have a great sex life. I just always have to take the lead �� I guess I should also cover that we go away very often, every couple months. So we have plenty of the romantic getaways too. It does sound like you two have lot of sex. I am really confused what the problem is. Maybe you just have a higher sex drive than him and more expressive and adventurous in bed than him. Maybe he doesn't take the lead because you want to try everything. Maybe he doesn't have much of a "fantasy" to tell you and is not very into kinky stuff.
Gaeta Posted November 14, 2016 Posted November 14, 2016 I would be curious as to why he considers another person his best sex. You may be surprised as to what he considers good sex. 1
ElizabethIII Posted November 14, 2016 Posted November 14, 2016 I would be curious as to why he considers another person his best sex. You may be surprised as to what he considers good sex. Very true and it probably doesn't involve all the toys and gimicks you like.
Shining One Posted November 15, 2016 Posted November 15, 2016 For the record I know quite a few guys who don't think their current GF is the best sex for them. The best sex is normally with a crazy chick who is only FWB material. As long as he still loves having sex with you, whether it's the best or not doesn't matterI agree with this. It's somewhat unreasonable to expect your current partner to be the best sex you've ever had. There are so many factors that contribute to good sex: Skill/Experience, Fitness, Body Compatibility, Eagerness, Emotions, etc. 1
Sunkissedpatio Posted November 15, 2016 Posted November 15, 2016 In the history of anyone ever asking, implying, insinuating or prying about being the best lover to someone have they ever had a satisfying answer. If the other person says "but you are my best" and early on they had told you that they were crazy about their ex, it's going to come off as a lie. If you get a brutally honest answer, this happens. Don't ask don't tell is the best policy when it comes to this kind of thing. Does he look like he's enjoying it? Are you enjoying it? That's all you need to know. Everything else is irrelevant unless your partner tells you flat out they aren't satisfied. 1
Gaeta Posted November 15, 2016 Posted November 15, 2016 Maybe I am old school but I think when you are in a relationship, that you are in love, and want to build a future with this person you never ever make them feel like they are not the best you've ever had.
Sunkissedpatio Posted November 16, 2016 Posted November 16, 2016 True but something like this either comes naturally to someone and they express it themselves without any prodding or if you try coaxing it out of them it will get you a placating response - not necessarily ideal. 1
dispatch3d Posted November 16, 2016 Posted November 16, 2016 She shouldn't really be saying this type of stuff to her boyfriend all the time, he kinda prodded for it though.
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