What can I do

[RedRider600]

I met a girl at work and we connected really good. I loved her personality and our interactions were always fun. She asked me for my number and about a week later she struck a conversation with me about the problems she was having with her daughter's father. She was telling me about how much of a jerk that guy is and so on. Later on that day she invited me for a drink. I was so busy that I replied late to her txt and never ended up going out. The next day she told me that fell asleep. She used to give me big hugs, her full body pressed up against mine and used to be genuinely happy to see me. After another female co-worker that I didn't get along with spoke ill of me, her attitude changed. She started to become distant. I decided to just keep away from her for everyone's sake. I didn't see her, txt, or call her one almost a month. One night she called me and was asking me for help on a job related question. It bothered me because it seemed like she was calling me only because she needed something. The day after she came up to me and told me that she had "forgotten" her wallet and wanted to know if "I could buy her lunch", which I did. A few weeks later she showed up to work not feeling well and I offered to help her with her work load. She would call me endearing terms such as "babe", "love", "boo", etc. but it turns out that she calls of the guys that and she's invited other guys to hang out with her after work as well. Up until this point our relationship was platonic but after that day I started to develop feelings for her. It was at this point that I began the "chase". I would go out of my way for her and would follow her around work a lot and I would always buy her lunch. It now seems like the spark that was once there is gone. She acts like I annoy her now. It's very difficult to have conversation with her now because it seems like I put in all of the effort. Last week I asked her out and she said that it would be better if we went out another day. We set it up and that same day she invited me to go with her somewhere after work but never ended up going on our date because she said she had too many things to do and "Sundays were not a good day for her". Yesterday at work as I was trying to strike up a conversation I asked her "What time is your lunch?". She replied "I started at the same time as you". I then told her "Why do you have to be such a smart ass" in a playful way, she then told me "Because you always ask retarded questions". That comment really hurt but she tried to say that she was "joking" about it, which I could clearly tell she was not. Later on in the day we took a break together and she bought me some snacks. For lunch I went out and bought her a meal but when we sat together she was acting cold and distant and was on her phone most of the time. When she first transferred to my job she had said that did not want to date anybody from work. She was previously married to a co worker. A marriage that only lasted one year and is now in the process of dissolution. She also told me that she had left her boyfriend for the guy who she married and has a daughter from another relationship. She has very few (if any) female friends. Most of her friends are males which I find odd. To make a long story short it seems like I've given her too much attention but I have feelings for her now so I hope I can salvage this specially because she gives me so many mixed signals....I am confused....What should I do because I like her a lot?...

[LastAcorn99]

It’s obvious you’re very confused about your situation. From what you’ve shared, apart from your feelings, you seem to have a lot of questions about her behavior. I would suggest that you be courteous to her, but give her some space and keep the friendship professional. Take care!