IfonlyIknew Posted November 14, 2016 Posted November 14, 2016 The bf of 8 months. I've noticed his distance lately. Usually we hang out on sundays, haven't heard from him for 6-7 hours so i called him, said he was doin something and will call me after to see "where i'm at" (usually we would meet up once we've talked). He never called. I was heartbroken but knew better than to call or text. Left things alone all night, all morning, he texts me along the lines of "hi my love" ummm... NO! First words needed to be i'm sorry i didn't call you aka blew you off. Yeah, i really liked him but i'm not ok with this... dating advice say "be welcoming when he comes back" this isn't a place to be welcoming IMO! Am i over reacting? I have NOT contacted him back.
Patrice Posted November 14, 2016 Posted November 14, 2016 did not followup with you last night. See what he says. 1
Redhead14 Posted November 14, 2016 Posted November 14, 2016 The bf of 8 months. I've noticed his distance lately. Usually we hang out on sundays, haven't heard from him for 6-7 hours so i called him, said he was doin something and will call me after to see "where i'm at" (usually we would meet up once we've talked). He never called. I was heartbroken but knew better than to call or text. Left things alone all night, all morning, he texts me along the lines of "hi my love" ummm... NO! First words needed to be i'm sorry i didn't call you aka blew you off. Yeah, i really liked him but i'm not ok with this... dating advice say "be welcoming when he comes back" this isn't a place to be welcoming IMO! Am i over reacting? I have NOT contacted him back. This is not "pull away" behavior. That line of thinking refers to men who kinda fall off for a day or two, which is about "caving" and "rubberbanding". You are overreacting a little bit but you are also stonewalling him. Call him on the phone, remind him that you had been waiting for his call and find out what was going on without being pissy. "Hey, I was hoping to hear from you again last night and I was disappointed and a little concerned." Spin it back to him to let him know how his behavior affected you and see if he has a credible/suitable reason for what he did.
Larryville Posted November 14, 2016 Posted November 14, 2016 The bf of 8 months. I've noticed his distance lately. Usually we hang out on sundays, haven't heard from him for 6-7 hours so i called him, said he was doin something and will call me after to see "where i'm at" I know I’m repeating myself here but seen so many of these “have not contacted me in hours, days” I don’t know about anyone else, but in any relationship I have ever had (two marriages, couple of LT relationships before those and a couple post-divorce) anyone I was ever with, we NEVER went hours (marriages of course) (days/relationships) without contact. Even if we are both busy, just a brief touch base, call, text, beeper in the beeper days for us older people. I know some will disagree but ladies if you are with a dude and you are not getting contacted in today's world with so many ways to stay in contact, he ain’t interested. The shine is off the shoes and he is looking for another pair.
gorf Posted November 14, 2016 Posted November 14, 2016 bf of 8 months. I've noticed his distance lately. Usually we hang out on sundays, haven't heard from him for 6-7 hours so i called him, said he was doin something and will call me after to see "where i'm at" (usually we would meet up once we've talked). He never called.I was heartbroken but knew better than to call or text. Left things alone all night, all morning, he texts me along the lines of "hi my love" ummm... NO! First words needed to be i'm sorry i didn't call you aka blew you off. Yeah, i really liked him but i'm not ok with this... dating advice say "be welcoming when he comes back" this isn't a place to be welcoming IMO! Am i over reacting? I have NOT contacted him back. You are over-reacting for sure. And being immature as a matter of fact. Get on the phone and call, send a message, call back when he doesnt answer after an hour... not 7 hours... not all night! That was purely your choice. Thats just a game. im sure he had a reason. Could be a million and one, but you would rather play him at his own game of silence.. with the assumption that it was a game to begin with. How about, tell him you noticed a pattern change. He seems distant. Less responsive. Ask him what is going on. Maybe he's got things on his mind, maybe he is bored. Just ask him dont play petty silence games and demand answers without asking questions.
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