Amyscott1234 Posted November 14, 2016 Posted November 14, 2016 I'm 37 and I started dating my personal trainer. It was 3mths after my boyfriend of three years broke up with me that I went out with my personal trainer. I'm not sure why I agreed to go out with him but it could have been because I was vulnerable and I needed comfort. I may have been an easy target. The date was awesome, I was happy and I didn't even think about my ex-bf. we had sex that night and I felt so alive. The next day reality stepped in and I felt more broken than ever. However, my trainer was very nice to me and we went out a few more times after but then after a month he stopped calling or texting me. Our conversations was when I had a session with him with the exception of when he wanted to 'go out' then he would text me. The sad thing is I never refused to go out because I longed for him, I was getting attached. Lately, I've noticed he's been getting comfortable with a girl at the gym. A girl I talk to and told her about me and the trainer but my gut is telling me that they have something going on. My friends told me to walk away and let this go, he's not right for you but I'm finding it hard to walk away when I see him everyday at the gym. Help, how do I let go? I don't want to leave the gym.
bummer Posted November 16, 2016 Posted November 16, 2016 Easy way: Leave the gym. Forget it all with time and a new man. Hard way: Stay at the gym and keep him as your trainer. Keep running back into this soap opera waiting to happen and see how you feel when you know he's getting with her or someone else. He's a trainer... in a gym. I did the quick math on it and he probably plays lots of women around the gym because, well, he's a trainer in a gym. 3
Gaeta Posted November 16, 2016 Posted November 16, 2016 He is not interested in you anymore so what is the used to stay there and go through feelings of jealousy on daily basis? You had a fling with him. It's part of life and part of getting back up on our feet after a break up. It was good while it lasted but now it's over. * Change gym * Change your schedule so you go when he's not there
stillafool Posted November 16, 2016 Posted November 16, 2016 You were not used nor targeted. You wanted him and the sex as grown women do. He was not in a relationship with you and as Gaeta said you simply had a fling. Find another place to work out so you don't have to see them. 1
mitchell Posted November 16, 2016 Posted November 16, 2016 How was the sex for you? Was he a selfish lover, or did he make sure you were satisfied? You weren't used. Remember, you got something out of this fling as well. Time to move on.
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