Author thecrucible Posted November 15, 2016 Author Posted November 15, 2016 I think you've analysed the situation too much. Pics could mean anything. Text him. Or don't. haha yeah I probably have. I don't feel freaked out about it though so I don't think I'm analysing it that much. Still not sure about the pics because it's not like just him and girl, it's them with their tongues down each others' throats. It was kind of off putting. It makes him look like a bit of a player. And his profile pic is of him flexing his bicep. I thought that was a bit weird because I thought he was a bit nerdy when I approached him rather than a gym guy (hell I like nerds though ).
Miss Peach Posted November 15, 2016 Posted November 15, 2016 That happened to me recently. I was at a meetup and a guy handed me his card. If I had time I would have written my number on the back and handed it back since I don't like to chase men and will not call one for a date. Since he had already walked away, I just texted the number "Here's my number" right there and let him initiate the follow up. IME it's either because a guy is lazy or unsure of interest.
Author thecrucible Posted November 16, 2016 Author Posted November 16, 2016 Funnily enough I saw him earlier this evening. I was getting on a bus to go somewhere and he just happened to get off as I was waiting outside the bus to get on. I sort of smiled in his direction although it happened pretty quickly. I'm not sure if he actually saw me. It was only going to be a matter of time before I actually bumped into him considering the small town I live in.
Anika9 Posted November 16, 2016 Posted November 16, 2016 Well obviously this sounds like case closed for the OP - but I wanted to chime in on this giving out numbers business. Maybe it's regional? Maybe it's because I am in "Man Jose" (there are a lot more 25-35 year old guys than gals here) - guys giving out their number is pretty common place here. I think it's non threatening, it lessens their chance for immediate rejection. Instead of saying "let me get your number" they say "heres my card". Then it's up to you if you want to reach out or not, and you aren't put on the spot to hand out your number. Besides, then you have their first and last name.... place of work. You get to Google them and see if they are a creeper >>>> Yea I prefer the guy giving his number to asking for mine.
TheTraveler Posted November 16, 2016 Posted November 16, 2016 It's a passive way of saying, I want to hang out with you OP.
Author thecrucible Posted November 21, 2016 Author Posted November 21, 2016 *Update* I went out for a very long Saturday night with one of my friends. We bumped into him again in the night club and we all hung out together again. We ended up going back to a house party with an acquaintance of mine (girl I did photos with) and her guy friend (let's call him Adam). Adam's apartment was so dirty (oh my gosh). The toilet was covered in poo stains and looked it hadn't been cleaned so I poured bleach down it which happened to be beside it (sorry I still can't get over that haha). Everyone else continued drinking but I just had a few cups of tea then just after 4am the guy who gave me his number left as he had work the next day. Then me and my friend walked home in the snow and I crashed on her sofa. My friend was trying to drop hints to him a little (bless her) but I actually deflected this as I find that kind of awkward. She was pushing me against him in the night club and trying to get me to sexy dance but I'm not into that so I changed the subject or redirected any hints she was making. Personally I don't think he's into me and well I don't really know if I'm into his personality but he's a friendly person and there certainly isn't anything nasty about him. We didn't really speak much and were hanging out within the group. I did chat to him a bit and he said he's here as a sportsman trying to join the national team in his sport here as he was on the second team in his country (he's from another english-speaking county) and he's working in retail to pay the bills while he pursues this goal. Just before he left he suggested we arrange a night out with me, my friends, and him and his friend and reiterated that he wants me to text him. He explained that he's been in the country for 4 months and is still finding his feet and feeling a bit bored.
Grey40 Posted November 21, 2016 Posted November 21, 2016 *Update* I went out for a very long Saturday night with one of my friends. We bumped into him again in the night club and we all hung out together again. We ended up going back to a house party with an acquaintance of mine (girl I did photos with) and her guy friend (let's call him Adam). Adam's apartment was so dirty (oh my gosh). The toilet was covered in poo stains and looked it hadn't been cleaned so I poured bleach down it which happened to be beside it (sorry I still can't get over that haha). Everyone else continued drinking but I just had a few cups of tea then just after 4am the guy who gave me his number left as he had work the next day. Then me and my friend walked home in the snow and I crashed on her sofa. My friend was trying to drop hints to him a little (bless her) but I actually deflected this as I find that kind of awkward. She was pushing me against him in the night club and trying to get me to sexy dance but I'm not into that so I changed the subject or redirected any hints she was making. Personally I don't think he's into me and well I don't really know if I'm into his personality but he's a friendly person and there certainly isn't anything nasty about him. We didn't really speak much and were hanging out within the group. I did chat to him a bit and he said he's here as a sportsman trying to join the national team in his sport here as he was on the second team in his country (he's from another english-speaking county) and he's working in retail to pay the bills while he pursues this goal. Just before he left he suggested we arrange a night out with me, my friends, and him and his friend and reiterated that he wants me to text him. He explained that he's been in the country for 4 months and is still finding his feet and feeling a bit bored. Sounds interested to me. He wouldn't tell you to text him and offer to set up another hang out if he wasn't. He's just not coming on strong, maybe because he's from another country they go about things a little differently. I would just text him see what he says. I'd find it weird if he doesn't try to hang out with you one on one. Seems odd to just keep inviting you out to gatherings with a lot of people, but maybe he thinks you need to feel more comfortable with him first
Author thecrucible Posted December 30, 2016 Author Posted December 30, 2016 Sounds interested to me. He wouldn't tell you to text him and offer to set up another hang out if he wasn't. He's just not coming on strong, maybe because he's from another country they go about things a little differently. I would just text him see what he says. I'd find it weird if he doesn't try to hang out with you one on one. Seems odd to just keep inviting you out to gatherings with a lot of people, but maybe he thinks you need to feel more comfortable with him first Well I'm rubbish at this stuff but I did text and he's cool for joining the group to hang out and said "sure let me know when you guys are out" or something like that but seemed to be just friendly. I didn't push conversation. I'm pretty happy though - I love meeting new people from different places. haha will probably bump into him on some other night out.
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