Have you ever wanted an ex back... After you dumped them?

[whoareyou]

A year ago my girlfriend of 6 months broke up with me. I feel as though she didn't see me as "the one" at the time due to some personality flaws I had back then. Since then I've really got involved with self-development and this past year I've become a much stronger version of myself and also a lot more confident. My confidence with women has skyrocketed and the overall quality of my life is about 5 times better than it was last year. I also haven't drank any alcohol in the past year and I know that's one of the things she hated about me. On top of that I've also put on 15 pounds of muscle in the gym and I've been eating a lot healthier as well. I feel as though if she were to meet me now she would be shocked at how much I've improved my life and how much more confident I've become.

 

 

If I were to coincidentally run into her at a bar and have gotten an opportunity to talk to her would she want me back? I wouldn't see any reason that she wouldn't want me back seeing as how I've fixed pretty much every character flaw I had in the past and my drinking problem.

 

 

Also, have you ever wanted an ex back after you dumped them? Perhaps a year later or so?

[Chief1970]

It didn't work the first time so it won't work the second. Go full no contact with her. No social media stalking. Find someone who is a better match.

[Scarlett.O'hara]

Firstly, if you really want her to think that you don't drink anymore, running into her at a bar isn't going to make it sound very believable.

 

Secondly, unless she made it clear that she would be open to the possibility of getting back together in the future if you made certain improvements to your life, you probably shouldn't get your hopes up. A year can be a long time for some people. It is very likely that she has moved on completely.

 

If you need to know one way or the other, contact her directly and see how receptive she is to talking to you. That should give you a pretty good indication of whether to pursue anything further.

 

Personally, I have never wanted to get back together with an ex I dumped, but everyone is different. Regardless of how it turns out, it sounds like it was a valuable growing experience that will benefit you and any relationships you have in the long run so you should feel proud of yourself for that.

[jonesey0]

You spent one year of your life trying to be what someone whom you had a relationship for six months wanted you to be? Where's the logic in that?

 

Do it for yourself, to feel better with yourself. Not for a girl you had a fling for six months.

[Marc878]

Living your life for the hope of an X will just get you disappointment.

 

If you're smart you go dark, block all and move on at warp speed.

[Sweetfish]

Since then I've really got involved with self-development and this past year I've become a much stronger version of myself and also a lot more confident. My confidence with women has skyrocketed and the overall quality of my life is about 5 times better than it was last year.

 

I love hearing this kinda stuff

 

You next step is start dating other women

Edited November 14, 2016 by Sweetfish

[dumbass2]

With everything you have done (good for you), sounds like you should have no problem reeling in another potential girlfriend. It's really best to leave the past behind you. If she ever contacted you again you can deal with it at that time, but after a year you should be thinking about dating and hopefully meeting the love of your life instead of still hoping for your ex to come back.