afdwh1975 Posted November 13, 2016 Posted November 13, 2016 I'm not sure what I'm asking - I guess I'm just putting my story out there and get some feedback. I met her 20 years ago in high school - it was love at first sight. I chased her for almost 2 years to get her to date me. We dated for a bit my senior year and then I shoved off for the Air Force. We wrote love letters, she came to see me graduate basic training with her family, and just like that - she broke up with me while I was in school. She was still young and needed someone around to take her to prom and stuff like that. My first duty station was only 3 hours away and I came down almost every weekend and would see her - try to steal kisses - but I was stuck in the friend zone. I even proposed to her and she turned me down. Then I met someone else and I gave up the chase. I married this new girl - we had 3 kids - and stayed married for 19 years. BUT - I never stopped thinking of my first love. I knew in my heart she was the one I was supposed to be with. But I was devoted and wanted to be a good husband/father. But after my wife left me for someone else and became my ex - my first thought was my first love. But - she was married herself. I talked to her a couple of times, but nothing more than high level "hi, how are you". I immediately dated another woman for 10 months and things were okay. Then - it happened. My first love and I had a conversation and she started telling me she was leaving her husband and she was in a very bad marriage. So she filed for divorce and now we are seeing each other. All of the feelings came rushing back - even more powerful. She says I have treated her better in the last month than she has ever been treated. She said things like "I'm sorry I ever let you go" and that she now sees what she had with me. Basically she has always loved me, but she had to discover life on her own. And she picked a couple of major jerks that controller her. Anyway - so I see two versions of my future. 1. This is true love - high school sweetheart - long lost love - everything happens for a reason - we both had to go through what we went through to find each other again and appreciate each other - I believe in true love and soulmates - she wants to go back to where we had our first kiss - Corpus Cristi on the beach. 2. Or, the feelings aren't real and are just memories. I was kind of worried that I'd see her and then all of those feelings in the back of my mind would turn out to not be real. But instead, I saw her and the feelings actually rushed back and I knew the love was real. Anyway - so is this a fairy tale...or is it just waiting to blow up in my face? 1
Noproblem Posted November 13, 2016 Posted November 13, 2016 You know I would say go for it but don't put too much expectations on the outcome. I mean we only love once, who knows, maybe this is the first possibility! or maybe not, maybe you are not really in love with her, this is only memories and nostalgia but you'll never know the truth until you try! Properly date her, have a relationship with her, either you will get her out of your system or she'll be your system for the rest of your life! What you gonna lose really? Nothing! Just don't wear your heart on your sleeve.. Protect it and don't shower her with love from the beginning, take it slow, but definitely don't let her friend- zone you! If you know what I mean! I really hope your story will be a true fairy tale with happy ending. Please let us posted if it ever work out.. Best of luck <3 Now a ps: there was this guy who used to come to my house every day when I was a teenager, and I never gave him a chance, then 6 years later I started searching for him on Facebook. at the time I kinda liked him but I wasn't looking for a relationship at that moment. But yeah I never contacted him once I found him on Facebook, like I spent 2 years searching for him, ended up finding him, saw his Facebook page, I wasn't impressed and I moved on so yeah it helps to have a closure, it helps you move on without the "What ifs"
victoria88 Posted November 13, 2016 Posted November 13, 2016 I'm not sure what I'm asking - I guess I'm just putting my story out there and get some feedback. I met her 20 years ago in high school - it was love at first sight. I chased her for almost 2 years to get her to date me. We dated for a bit my senior year and then I shoved off for the Air Force. We wrote love letters, she came to see me graduate basic training with her family, and just like that - she broke up with me while I was in school. She was still young and needed someone around to take her to prom and stuff like that. My first duty station was only 3 hours away and I came down almost every weekend and would see her - try to steal kisses - but I was stuck in the friend zone. I even proposed to her and she turned me down. Then I met someone else and I gave up the chase. I married this new girl - we had 3 kids - and stayed married for 19 years. BUT - I never stopped thinking of my first love. I knew in my heart she was the one I was supposed to be with. But I was devoted and wanted to be a good husband/father. But after my wife left me for someone else and became my ex - my first thought was my first love. But - she was married herself. I talked to her a couple of times, but nothing more than high level "hi, how are you". I immediately dated another woman for 10 months and things were okay. Then - it happened. My first love and I had a conversation and she started telling me she was leaving her husband and she was in a very bad marriage. So she filed for divorce and now we are seeing each other. All of the feelings came rushing back - even more powerful. She says I have treated her better in the last month than she has ever been treated. She said things like "I'm sorry I ever let you go" and that she now sees what she had with me. Basically she has always loved me, but she had to discover life on her own. And she picked a couple of major jerks that controller her. Anyway - so I see two versions of my future. 1. This is true love - high school sweetheart - long lost love - everything happens for a reason - we both had to go through what we went through to find each other again and appreciate each other - I believe in true love and soulmates - she wants to go back to where we had our first kiss - Corpus Cristi on the beach. 2. Or, the feelings aren't real and are just memories. I was kind of worried that I'd see her and then all of those feelings in the back of my mind would turn out to not be real. But instead, I saw her and the feelings actually rushed back and I knew the love was real. Anyway - so is this a fairy tale...or is it just waiting to blow up in my face? Wow, my romantic nature pushed me to express what I feel and think about this story. One thing only, do not be negative, get rid of the doubts. You love her and it looks she loves you (she is interested in you). To me it seems like a fairy tale. If you haven't stopped loving her for so many years, then this is True Love. Some people wait their entire life to find true love (some find it some do not), you found it but you have doubts now (whether it is real). I would say this is love accrording to me. It stays in your heart for years and surmounts all the difficulties. I wish you happiness.
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