Asti Posted November 13, 2016 Posted November 13, 2016 When you yell at your girlfriend and see her laying in bed crying 30 mins later and ask her if she is ok and her response is... " You're gonna think it's stupid" While crying more. What is an appropriate response?
Shanex Posted November 13, 2016 Posted November 13, 2016 ''I've been a ahole for yelling at you and make you cry'' /Thread.
BaileyB Posted November 13, 2016 Posted November 13, 2016 Yes, I would think an apology for yelling at her such that she started to cry might be in order. I mean, you did ask her if she was ok... But seriously, why are you yelling at your girlfriend? Not good. 1
Author Asti Posted November 13, 2016 Author Posted November 13, 2016 Sorry, I am the girlfriend. I was curious what a typical response to this statement would be. Since I am pretty sure I didn't get a normal response... The response I got was silence. He sat in the chair across from the bed and did something on his phone. He came over to show me a porn video he thought I would like... Apparently thats what he was doing. When I asked why he showing me this he didn't answer. He continued to show me random Tubler videos for 15 mins. I calmed down cause some of them were hilarious! He went to the other room and told the kids they needed to take a nap. ( Which normally is how we figure in relationship talks or sex.) He came back to bed, watched porn for a couple minutes ( no sex or masturbating) than went to sleep. I laid there crying the entire time! He woke up and ignored me. Asked me to help him with getting him and the kids ready for the gym. When I told him that watching porn, taking a nap, and going to the gym until its dark out will ensure I will be fuming later and we will be having an argument tonight, he said "No, it will be late and I don't argue at night. You know this. You had your chance to talk and you decided not to." WTF?!?! I said " When someone says you will think it is stupid the correct boyfriend response is 'Even if I do, I want to know whats wrong' or 'No I wont' or just ****ing hug me!" He said its his job to ask and mine to tell since I am the one crying. I didnt say anything till he needed to leave the house so I lost my chance to fight about it. He said it I choose to be angry all night until we have time to talk tomorrow thats up to me but that we are definitely not talking about it tonight. ( This all started over me packing too much for our trip we are going on tomorrow.) Sorry! Apparently I just exploded all over this page.
stillafool Posted November 13, 2016 Posted November 13, 2016 "No, it isn't' stupid, what's wrong honey?"
BaileyB Posted November 13, 2016 Posted November 13, 2016 I'm sorry, your post is confusing. My first thought is that you both need to work on your communication and how to manage conflict in the relationship. Both of you. And, if I may, the day that my boyfriend ignored me when I was upset to watch porn is the last day he will be hanging around my house... What an insensitive and immature thing to do.
Author Asti Posted November 13, 2016 Author Posted November 13, 2016 Yeah, I am pretty sure it's over. He just had me thinking that there was something I missed and that I should have approached things differently. Thank you all for your input! It defiantly made me realize that I am not crazy. I was just scared to say something that would make him yell more. I don't think I could have made a right choice for him no matter what I did. Now, to break up before or after our trip with 30 of our friends that we leave for in 24 hours? :/ Oh boy! Thanks again everyone! Sometimes you just need to put it out there to confirm your not crazy.
JewelD Posted November 13, 2016 Posted November 13, 2016 If you're having that much tension over simply packing for a trip, I can't imagine that was a pleasant relationship. End it now. 1
dispatch3d Posted November 13, 2016 Posted November 13, 2016 Uh yeah I employ a one->three strike rule on yelling. If its at all a repeated thing I'm out. This is the stuff I look for not in the other person.
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