Erik30 Posted November 13, 2016 Posted November 13, 2016 So I met this girl online, thought we hit it off pretty well so I asked her out after about three weeks of contact and she agreed. While we were planning the date via texting she suddenly just stopped replying. In my last text I suggested some days I might be available the following week, since I already had plans this weekend. (She wanted to go on Sunday) I didn't send her anything else after that because the ball was basically in her court. After my text she just ghosted for five days until I got a message really late after midnight in which she just said "sure, sounds good," and suggested a day to go out on. No mention of being busy or something, she just picked up the conversation right where we left it. Should I stil go out with her? I was interested but it kinda bothers me that she can just disappear and act like nothing happened. She actually did something similar before in a regular conversation, she ghosted for three days, but did apologize for that claiming she didn't read my text. So I'm starting to think that this is just something she tends to do
Popsicle Posted November 13, 2016 Posted November 13, 2016 This is why I hate texting... because people think they can do things like that. Anyways, you need to take this offline and judge her after meeting her in person before you can really come to a definitive conclusion. If she never meets you, then she was never interested or was probably married or something... 3
Author Erik30 Posted November 13, 2016 Author Posted November 13, 2016 (edited) Thanks. I get how people sometimes can stop replying for a while when you're just having a random conversation, something else might come up. I just think it's weird to disappear for a couple of days when you're in the middle of trying to set a date. She actually has suggested a day so I don't know Edited November 13, 2016 by Erik30
ChatroomHero Posted November 13, 2016 Posted November 13, 2016 Well even if you go ahead and plan a date and try to coordinate, would you be all that surprised if she stopped responding again and didn't make the date she suggested for whatever reason? I have low tolerance for people like that. With text they can literally respond almost anywhere anytime. In 5 days she ate lunch, watched TV, checked facebook...multiple times so the truth is if she wanted to reply, she literally had multiple times to send a text that takes 12 seconds. Honestly people lose interest or have low interest and I don't typically care to chase those people any more, I have found the odds are not worth the effort. If it was me I would send her a text and just say, I think I'll pass but thank you anyway. My guess is her response would come very fast and say, OK, I understand, with a smiley face at the end. 1
phineas Posted November 13, 2016 Posted November 13, 2016 She is playing games. I don't know a single woman who doesn't go through her phone at least daily to look at all of her recent texts. Guys might forget to respond or not read a text but women don't do this. Not for 5 days. She either isn't interested or playing games and sht-testing you. I'd personally troll her. wait for her to double text then ask "who is this?" an in demand guy online dating would delete a chick who didn't respond to his date offer within a day or two tops. He'd forget her and move on. At that point if she was truly interested she'd make an effort and stop with the games. 1
Larryville Posted November 13, 2016 Posted November 13, 2016 She took days to reply While we were planning the date via texting she suddenly just stopped replying. After my text she just ghosted for five days ntil I got a message really late after midnight in which she Should I stil go out with her? So I'm starting to think that this is just something she tends to do She is playing games. I don't know a single woman who doesn't go through her phone at least daily to look at all of her recent texts. Guys might forget to respond or not read a text but women don't do this. Not for 5 days. I agree with Phin, no doubt! The thing all dudes should process when navigating the OLD world is if you happen to get a bite, and even if you exchange a few messages NO MATTER WHAT assume any woman has a few dudes on the hook. If you see a woman and she is worth pursuing how many other dudes (depending on where you live population density) is pursuing the same woman at a given moment? I just don’t get why so many dudes who post here “wondering” how examples like this take place, and what happen to a given woman after initial contact. A significant number of women who are on OLD are not actually on the site to “find” someone. OLD sites for the most part are like live action video games. Many of the interactions are phony and contrived. To know that a woman is indeed interested boils down to one simple action… does she ask questions about you? Does she make the time and effort to engage you and not reply to you in canned generic responses? Nobody is genuinely interested will ghost you for “days” no matter how busy they are it is beyond rude, but way too many women feel they can get away with that type of boorish behavior. Simply they have the numbers advantage and they know it. Simply vetting profiles better will save you time, money and mental anguish. 3
MarkIVSteel Posted November 13, 2016 Posted November 13, 2016 She ghosted you because you weren't priority number one on her dating list. She wanted to see if she could get better options out of all the guys messaging her. She engaged some other guys and probably went out with a few. After exhausting those options, she decided to go back to her fallback guy, you. Honestly, I would simply ignore the text, delete her texts and contact and move on. If you respond to her and agree to go out with her. You are subconsciously communicating to her that she can ignore you whenever she wants. That your time isn't valuable and she can expect you to be there at any time she wants. Sorry but her actions are completely low class and trash. 1
smackie9 Posted November 13, 2016 Posted November 13, 2016 (edited) Go by their actions....it shows her level of interest (no brainer). Why would you be interested in someone who is that inconsiderate? Tip: don't wait 3 weeks, ask them out after a couple of messages and get to know them on the date....in person! Texting is just lazy/easy way of communication. You can end up being someones penpal. Edited November 13, 2016 by smackie9 1
Chris2016 Posted November 13, 2016 Posted November 13, 2016 OP, NEXT. Rude, inconsiderate, playing games, low class, whatever. Let these people filter themselves out. You know what you want, and it's not this. If she is multi-dating and coming back to the fallback guy, nobody is taking her up on her offer. So she isn't all that and a bag of chips. The market will set her straight. It'll set everyone straight--if they want to be. It's not your job to help her figure that out, NEXT! 2
Sweetfish Posted November 13, 2016 Posted November 13, 2016 So I met this girl online, thought we hit it off pretty well so I asked her out after about three weeks of contact and she agreed. While we were planning the date via texting she suddenly just stopped replying. In my last text I suggested some days I might be available the following week, since I already had plans this weekend. (She wanted to go on Sunday) I didn't send her anything else after that because the ball was basically in her court. After my text she just ghosted for five days until I got a message really late after midnight in which she just said "sure, sounds good," and suggested a day to go out on. No mention of being busy or something, she just picked up the conversation right where we left it. Should I stil go out with her? I was interested but it kinda bothers me that she can just disappear and act like nothing happened. She actually did something similar before in a regular conversation, she ghosted for three days, but did apologize for that claiming she didn't read my text. So I'm starting to think that this is just something she tends to do I wouldn't worry about it.. possible she meet another guy and it didn't work out. Take her out have a fun time. No harm done. 1
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