Stage5Clinger Posted November 13, 2016 Posted November 13, 2016 Hi LS, I have been dating someone for the past 6 months. Things have been progressively declining and I don't know what to do about it. She seems pretty upset with me and it's something I'm having a hard time understanding. She can't tell me what it is she needs that I'm not giving her so I just feel like I'm not good enough for her. Also, she has a child. I haven't met the child yet and that's part of the problem. She has shared custody of him so we hang out on the days she does not have him (2-3 days during the week). This isn't a lot of time and during the days that we don't hang out we fall apart further. Her concern is that I'll never meet the child so I offered to meet him casually. She actually declined saying she doesn't want to introduce me. So how am I supposed to fix this? I feel really backed into a corner with nowhere to go. She says she doesn't want to break up but it really seems otherwise. She makes me feel so inadequate but I have no idea how to fix it. On the nights we do hang out I drive across town to her house, cook her dinner, and then we have good sex and watch television. She cums every time and I make certain of it. Any advice LS? I'm pretty bummed out being sort of dragged along with no way to fix it. I realize I'm not the best boyfriend in the world sometimes and my text messaging sucks. But god damn I hate this feeling it's borderline abusive. She makes me feel awful and only wants to argue over text never in person or over the phone. I feel like I'm doing the best that I can and it's not good enough for her.
JewelD Posted November 13, 2016 Posted November 13, 2016 You're probably just not a good match then. Better to break things off now. She is possibly holding on because dating with a child can be hard. Could be she already knows you aren't the one (hence why you're not meeting her child) but doesn't feel like going through the motions of trying to meet someone new yet. So you'll do for now.
spiderowl Posted November 13, 2016 Posted November 13, 2016 If things are declining and she is not happy with you and does not let you know what is going wrong, then you are stuck. Why stay in a relationship where you do not feel appreciated? I presume you have asked her why she seems unhappy? This could be nothing to do with you and everything to do with past relationships. If she has a child, then she will still have to interact with her ex. Maybe things are just not resolved for her at some emotional level, in which case you will not be able to do anything right because you are not the problem. I would try talking to her about this feeling you have. If this does not clear things up for you, then consider leaving. You could be with someone who loves and appreciates you.
Shanex Posted November 13, 2016 Posted November 13, 2016 You're not getting much respect from her. I don't see why having a child should somehow be an excuse for her obnoxious and borderline abusive behavior. Sorry to third the two posters above but this is doomed to fail imo.
smackie9 Posted November 13, 2016 Posted November 13, 2016 Some relationships are not meant to be............
Popsicle Posted November 13, 2016 Posted November 13, 2016 Ask her about the child and how her child is doing while you are not together to show that you care. Tell her you want to meet him when she's ready and let her decide. I think she's just feeling insecure that you want a future with her and her child but that will go away in time if you otherwise hang in there and act like you want to continue to be in her life.
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